When She's Not 'Putting Out'

She sounds really ridiculous and very sheltered. I mean I can understand her not being ready and she might not want to speak to you about it for whatever reason, but passing judgements on people who do have sex...

It is a bit odd.

talk to her! She might just be nervous that you're trying to push her into it (even if you're not). Sit down with her, and tell her that you're willing to wait until she's ready - if you are. Find out if she is ever going to want to sleep with you, and if it's a problem then see where things go from there.

3 months isn't that long believe it or not me and my boyfriend are in the exact same position and we have been going out for over a year.


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Talk to her about those issues my man. find out her position on sex and those intimate interactions. if her position is 'no' on all things sex and intimacy; then.. onto the next one. quickly.

however, if its' something different, and she wants to wait for however long; the onus is on you to decide if you're willing to wait..



i say this, because sex and physical intimacy are fundamental aspects of relationships. without this aspect; what you have on your hands is a friendship; not a relationship. this is so important an aspect because, humans were having sex, before they could talk.

If you're going to break up with her just over the fact that she won't have sex with you then I don't know man that's pretty pathetic. You must not care that much about her if you're so bothered about her not being ready for sex.

She sounds really ridiculous and very sheltered. I mean I can understand her not being ready and she might not want to speak to you about it for whatever reason, but passing judgements on people who do have sex...

It is a bit odd.

We are both 18.
Been in a relationship with a virgin for just over 3 months. She seems annoyed whenever I mention sex.

Even when we were talking about another couple of the same age who were known to be sexually active she hit out with 'I didnt think X was that kind of girl..' , as if sex is something only sluts do or something

I really really like her, but I'm coming close to breaking up with her over this.

What do I do?

I think you should do her a favour and break up with her. She isnt ready for sex, you want sex, break up with her and find someone else. Dont pressure her into sex, just break up with her now and let her be with someone who also wants to wait a longer time, and you can be with someone who wants sex now.

Do you guys do any other intimate activities?

The problem I'm facing is the same as most other guys who 'stick around' - I don't have a 'better option'

The problem I'm facing is the same as most other guys who 'stick around' - I don't have a 'better option'

what? You mean that you are only with her because no one else will go out with you?

Dump her, mate. That's ****ing ridiculous. I assume you fulfill her emotional requirements, so why can't she reciprocate and fulfill your sexual desires? I think it's a shame girls can't respect that our sex drives are innately different [1]. It's also a shame she doesn't see sex as something enjoyable—for the both of you.

No, I'm just saying that I don't have a queue of girls wanting to have sex with me.




100% what I'm thinking. Her friends will hate me if I dump her for the lack of sex.

No, I'm just saying that I don't have a queue of girls wanting to have sex with me.




100% what I'm thinking. Her friends will hate me if I dump her for the lack of sex.

You kiss - that's good. I think after that amount of time you could be being a bit more intimate, but if she's not ready and you truly care about her you might want to wait.

If it's really driving you crazy then you need to find someone who isn't keeping you waiting.