Rough sex - can it still be intimate?

can you stop saying you do you, I already said I don't do casual sex myself

i really don't think it's your place to say that sleeping with a lot of people isn't classy. What IS classy then? Why in this day and age should people be judged for this. If you're single, you're upfront about your intentions, your clean and safe - what is the problem?

And yes I'm over 18, my partner is in his 30s

You're eighteen?

Are you in or around London by the way?

Good luck. She seems like a biter.

You need to calm yourself down and understand that since this is a public conversation, other people will come across and comment. To assuage them from misconstruing me, I say "do you" which is just a general saying for "I am not judging."That brings me to part two. I am not judging at all. I am rationalising judgements which people get who are promiscuous, and I see the reasoning there to look down on it. And I do look down on it. I don't know many people (who aren't bull****ting) who can't see that sleeping with a new person everyday isn't model behaviour. Because like I said, have you nothing better to do and do you not feel you deserve to be treated properly? If you're sleeping with a new person everyday, hello: that person won't be seeing you again either. If you're so casual about doing it, who knows how common that will become and I damn sure know I don't wanna run into some guy who expects me to **** him n chuck him just because "some bitch I was with the other night did that. Why won't you?" Excuse me?! And what does the time and "day and age" have to do with morality/treating yourself with standards? Having standards is timeless, I'd like to think. It's not like I walk around flicking my nose up at people who sleep around, because I don't wonder about it anyway. But in the conversation about it, I have to be honest and admit it's indecent.Again. I say do you...because...think what you want. I don't care to argue because I know the situation isn't mine, thankfully.

can you not read? You just quoted me saying I'm over 18

i don't care to be more specific as I have a non anonymous profile. But I am over 18, he's in his early thirties.

I can slice the sarcasm with a knife. Actually I ask because the big london munch is coming up this friday.

thanks but I'm not really into groups meeting based on enjoyment of a sexual lifestyle. It's not us, I think we'd find it a bit cringe. No offence intended. I went to one a couple years ago as a single girl but it was just weird. Also I looked RADICALLY different from everyone else there

Well you two enjoy your talk, I'm off to get my beauty sleep.

That's really odd. And none taken - maybe you went to an "event", rather than a "munch"? I've heard stories of that happening. All the ones I go to are pretty much just casual pubs and random conversation, not sex-based. In fact, the under 35s one I go to is pretty much exactly the same as a bog standard student night, except everyone there are fet members. Certainly not all that corsets and PVC stuff, I've always found that a little weird. Put it this way, if someone accidentally stumbled upon it, they probably wouldn't have the faintest idea until maybe someone behind them started a dubious conversation :PCertainly doesn't sound like your ordeal, sorry that happened to you.

So I don't usually talk about sex much with my friends but the other night we were a bit drunk and I mentioned how I really love sex with my new guy because he is really rough in bed. She said that's horrible cos if we never 'make love' then we're never properly intimate

is she wrong or am I the weird one?? I personally find the rough sex to be even more intimate - there has to be real trust for him to choke me and stuff, and afterwards he'll kiss the places he bruised and holds me close, and we really love each other

id welcome some opinions on this