Ok, so this is a long tale but please read;
I have been told that I have a solid mass tumor growing inside my lower jaw bone, its about 3cm long under my molars. I have absolutely no symptoms and it was discovered by accident when I was having a scan for something else which turned out to be Ok, it just showed up this little beauty.
I have to have an emergency biopsy under general anesthetic next week to remove a small proportion of the jaw bone and the growth, I am ok with this but what I a worried about is what happens next, I have been told that even if the tumor is benign i.e. not cancer I will need it removed, depending on what it is will depend on the type of surgery I need, but I have been told it may be fairly aggressive, i.e they cut out a whole section of bone along with teeth and replace it with a metal plate and a bone graft from my leg or rib. I am so scared about this, I feel fine I am fit and I am youngish. I can't cope with the worry, I don;t want to tell anybody about how scared I am about what is likley to happen, I want to stay strong but I am scared witless, I just want somebody to hug me and say its going to be OK.
I am single at the moment and worry what girl will find me attractive after such radical surgery, my life is on hold, I had a bad couple of years and at the start to the year things were really looking up, I had regained my confidence after a bad break up and things were looking good now this. This year is turning into one of horror, I desperately want a relationship and want to start one with the sweetest girl I have ever met, but it would be so unfair them with this shadow over me, Also I feel I can't book any holidays I love travel and feel like I am missing out. My parents are also due to go on a holiday of a life time to Inida in October for a month, I am so worried that they will not be able to go on this due to helping me recover, they have always wanted to go and if they have to cancel will never be able to go as they will loose are £10k cost of holiday, I know they will say they will not mind, but I know its something they have wanted to do all their lives.
I feel so confused and alone at the moment, sometimes I feel it would be better to end it all as I donlt know if I can cope with it all, on the surface I may seem ok but inside I am in absolute bits, the only thing stopping doing anything stupid is my little brother,as I know how much it would affect her,
Please please help