Who was in the wrong here? He gets annoyed at me but i dont see why.
Basically me anc my boyfriend go to the same martial arts club. My boyfriend said that he would be doing some weight training in the gym at 6 the next day and that i could do some with him as i usually do, so i said ok I'l probably be going to the gym too at 6. The gym has a track next to it and sports hall.
The next day I text him and said that I was nipping to the shop and would be at the gym at half 6. He replied 'ok see u at the track at half 6'.
With the track being at the side of the gym i just assumed he either meant the gym or would hang around there talking to the others before going in the gym so i just did as i said in my text and went straight in the gym at half 6'.
I did some weights on my own for about 40 minutes but there was no sign of him. He then came in looking annoyed and said 'ive been looking for you where where you i said id be at the track, i thought you wernt comming'. I said ' i said id be in the gym at half 6 so this is where i came' He said ' i said at the track half 6 in my text i have been doing a bit of coaching'. 'I said 'ok well i thought you might have been talking to people and would have come over, i said in my text id be at the gym'. He said ' what talking for 40 minutes, Im the one who sent the last text so we should have met at the track'. I said 'this is the track its not exactly far away'.
He got annoyed and said ' no, i think its your upbringing you just dont think normally' (he thinks im not normal and its my patents fault). I said 'i said i would be at the gym and i was ive done nothing wrong'. He said 'oh well you dont need me then' and he picked up his bag and left.
Theres been no contact since. I didnt think it would be a big deal me going in the gym as i said i would as the track is literally a 20 second walk away. Is it me? Should i have communicated more im not used to relationships and he says this is the reason im like i am but most of the time i cant see what im doing wrong :/
The next day I text him and said that I was nipping to the shop and would be at the gym at half 6. He replied 'ok see u at the track at half 6'.
With the track being at the side of the gym i just assumed he either meant the gym or would hang around there talking to the others before going in the gym so i just did as i said in my text and went straight in the gym at half 6'.
I did some weights on my own for about 40 minutes but there was no sign of him. He then came in looking annoyed and said 'ive been looking for you where where you i said id be at the track, i thought you wernt comming'. I said ' i said id be in the gym at half 6 so this is where i came' He said ' i said at the track half 6 in my text i have been doing a bit of coaching'. 'I said 'ok well i thought you might have been talking to people and would have come over, i said in my text id be at the gym'. He said ' what talking for 40 minutes, Im the one who sent the last text so we should have met at the track'. I said 'this is the track its not exactly far away'.
He got annoyed and said ' no, i think its your upbringing you just dont think normally' (he thinks im not normal and its my patents fault). I said 'i said i would be at the gym and i was ive done nothing wrong'. He said 'oh well you dont need me then' and he picked up his bag and left.
Theres been no contact since. I didnt think it would be a big deal me going in the gym as i said i would as the track is literally a 20 second walk away. Is it me? Should i have communicated more im not used to relationships and he says this is the reason im like i am but most of the time i cant see what im doing wrong :/
I am not going to be quick to judge either of you as I don't know you and as a result of that, i'm not going to say who I think is in the wrong but I will say that he said as the final location "Ok, see you at the track at half 6" so technically you should have gone straight to the track to meet him. I then would like to move on and say that I think the way he reacted over such a small thing is very unnecessary.
Relationships don't ever function without the occasional argument but arguments are generally to be avoided by having a calm, conversation about the matter in private. This is the best alternative as it keeps stress low and you are more able to see the situation from your partner's eyes.
Relationships don't ever function without the occasional argument but arguments are generally to be avoided by having a calm, conversation about the matter in private. This is the best alternative as it keeps stress low and you are more able to see the situation from your partner's eyes.
Original post by Hrdee
I am not going to be quick to judge either of you as I don't know you and as a result of that, i'm not going to say who I think is in the wrong but I will say that he said as the final location "Ok, see you at the track at half 6" so technically you should have gone straight to the track to meet him. I then would like to move on and say that I think the way he reacted over such a small thing is very unnecessary.
Relationships don't ever function without the occasional argument but arguments are generally to be avoided by having a calm, conversation about the matter in private. This is the best alternative as it keeps stress low and you are more able to see the situation from your partner's eyes.
Relationships don't ever function without the occasional argument but arguments are generally to be avoided by having a calm, conversation about the matter in private. This is the best alternative as it keeps stress low and you are more able to see the situation from your partner's eyes.
Ok thanks, we tend to just ignore the argument afterwards rather than talk it through its left unresolved, but then its forgotton about. In fact thetes not usually much to resolve are arguments are usually over nothing lol.
Original post by Anonymous
Ok thanks, we tend to just ignore the argument afterwards rather than talk it through its left unresolved, but then its forgotton about. In fact thetes not usually much to resolve are arguments are usually over nothing lol.
Me and my girlfriend used to argue often until I began sitting her down and having a calm discussion with her instead. I have never been closer to her as I can now talk to her about anything without either of us losing our minds.
It feels like im having to work things out all the time. Before this i would have thought that if i said im going somewhere at a certain that would have been good enough. Now i realise from this that its the person who texts last that more or less has the say. I can be dumb in social situations. Im probably like this as ive never socialised much and always kept myself to myself.
Original post by Anonymous
It feels like im having to work things out all the time. Before this i would have thought that if i said im going somewhere at a certain that would have been good enough. Now i realise from this that its the person who texts last that more or less has the say. I can be dumb in social situations. Im probably like this as ive never socialised much and always kept myself to myself.
I am the same. Very socially awkward unless I'm online and as a result I tend not to make sense to my girlfriend and end up having to elaborate upon what i'm trying to say and it irritates her slightly but she knows it's not my fault and looks beyond it
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