Do first impressions matter a lot?

I dont think they do. i thinnk you have to go on a persons personality, looks are just a bonus in my opinion. x

But you can't be turned on by a paper bag...

...looks matter no doubt otherwise the sexual attraction, or lack of it, will lead to problems at some point.

Having said that, you don't need to look like a rockstar, you just need to be happy with what you do present.

But you can't be turned on by a paper bag...

...looks matter no doubt otherwise the sexual attraction, or lack of it, will lead to problems at some point.

Having said that, you don't need to look like a rockstar, you just need to be happy with what you do present.

i agree with you, but what about first impressions, could they change over time. Like if someone was unattractive and became more attractive, could you date them?

Yup your feelings can change over time. It's happened to me. It wasn't a drastic change, but I used to be a bit chubby. I was quite unattractive. Then last summer, I lost a ton of weight and suddenly I have girls, some who were good friends (not just randomers) giving me more attention.

So yes, first impressions do matter. Is it shallow? No, I don't think it is. You need to like what you're gonna **** but it's also not the be all and end all to healthy lasting relationships.

Edit: And no, first impressions don't change over time, you sexual attraction to someone can change over time if they make changes which change one's sexual attraction to them. What impacts our sexual attraction to other humans? Well it's things on their body. So losing weight, changing hair colour, building muscle, squating, boob job (for some..), getting new clothes, new look all round. Stuff like that can make us think, wow, x is pretty attractive now.

Look on fb and those you met at school 5 years ago. See how they look now, your first impressions haven't changed but you probably would't mind ****ing some of them.

There's first impressions and lasting impressions. Tbh they might be the same if you're not the type to be socially skilled enough to redeem yourself if you started off wrong.

Now being ugly and fat and confident. The confidence is up to you. If you think being slimmer will automatically improve your life, mate...

Now if you're sweaty or something and socially awkward just...you know..clean up. Calm down a bit, take it easy, drink water, bring a rag or paper towels or something and wipe the sweat. Being fat doesn't mean being sloppy. And as far as dress, Idk how you dress but if you think it's ugly try wearing what you think is nice, obviously. No one is doomed.

Well said.

There's first impressions and lasting impressions. Tbh they might be the same if you're not the type to be socially skilled enough to redeem yourself if you started off wrong.

Now being ugly and fat and confident. The confidence is up to you. If you think being slimmer will automatically improve your life, mate...

Now if you're sweaty or something and socially awkward just...you know..clean up. Calm down a bit, take it easy, drink water, bring a rag or paper towels or something and wipe the sweat. Being fat doesn't mean being sloppy. And as far as dress, Idk how you dress but if you think it's ugly try wearing what you think is nice, obviously. No one is doomed.

It will improve the way i look drastically and therefore my confidence and everything will follow, i think...

But you can't be turned on by a paper bag...

Weight loss does wonders for confidence. It makes not care about what others think because deep down you're comfortable with your weight.

Whereas fat or overweight people generally know they are what they are. They are then worried people will pick up on this so they instead prefer to isolate themselves a bit. What this means is you then start chatting to someone but you don't fully let yourself go out of fear. You then appear unconfident.

No first impressions don't count

don't you see how there are a couple of nerdy sweaty boys in year 7 who turn into Mr Perfect in year 13 and the girls that ignored them 6 years ago are swooning when they walk past them now???

dat could be u

Speak for yourself ...