Okay…speaking as someone who has never met you…yikes.
Immediately reading this, you sound like a guy who believes in “alpha males” and “beta males”, who would listen to Andrew Tate and probably ranks the girls he walks by out of 10. Maybe thats not who you are, but from this post alone, those are the vibes you’re giving off. And that is doing NOTHING for you. No woman with a ounce of self-worth wants to be with that guy, because they tend to treat women like ****. And, unfortunately, you’re starting to sound like that guy, especially with “i dont date down”. You’re likely overestimating where you sit on that scale too. Don’t care how physically attractive you are, you might look like a greek god, but your attitude knocks you down a few pegs off the bat.
Social skills help, yes, but if you try to be a genuinely nice person (ie: nice without the hope of something more behind it, just nice), and try to work on not emitting reddit incel vibes, you’ll find you actually can pull.
Work on yourself too, not because you need to be Mr Chad, but because if you feel good about yourself, you will feel more confident, and that will bring you social skills. I don’t even mean to lift weights (but feel free to), I mean get a haircut you like, find aftershave that you think smells good, chew gum for fresh breath. Longer term, try developing your interests. I don’t care if your interest is looking at paint dry, like it enough and you’ll attract someone who likes it too. And with a common interest, you always have something to talk about - it’s a cheat code for lousy social skills (I would know). All of these can help you feel better about yourself, and that’s all it takes.
And those women might not be traditionally “hot”, but if you try making decisions with your brain, you might find you enjoy the company of some of those sort of women more. Do you really want a model-type woman who blindly thinks you’re “Mr Wonderful” without knowing you, or do you want an average (but still decent) looking woman who genuinely wants to know more about you than your looks and your bank balance, and genuinely cares about you? I recommend you take a good hard look at yourself and figure that out. Yes, you might be able to find both, but realistically, that is hard. You can do it, of course, if you try, you just might be waiting a while.
Social skills aren’t genetic, dude. You’re not doomed to be socially inept forever. Work on it, and stop blaming your poor mother for her “poor social genes”. Maybe you take after her social skills, yes, but you can fix them, if you want to make the effort.
Basically. Look in the mirror and decide if you really want to be the d**k that complains women don’t want him, as if he’s entitled to them, and work to be the man that women actually want to be around. Work on your attitude, work on your confidence, evaluate your preferences and then please, go give your mum a hug.
ok now go pull dude