She had a change of heart :/

I think she's changed her mind about things and hasn't communicated it well. You're right to back off. I wouldn't expect this to go anywhere based on the above.

Situation:

So I started seeing someone about 2 months ago on the premise of we wanted the same things, and it was very clear it wouldn't be casual as we weren't into that. She did try to make things exclusive very early on, maybe after a month which I ignored a little to protect myself till I knew (the following wouldn't happen...)

But we did date A LOT and we spoke every day, so I didn't date others just through the fact I had no time.

Anyway, she arranged to sleep with me before going away, which I waited for and she complimented me before she went home for two and a bit weeks when things seemed normal, we would video call every night and I tried to share my usual affection for her.

Then out of the blue, she was with a friend the weekend gone and she started slow replying, cancelled the meeting up Tuesday then eventually wanted to cancel a future meeting up. So I paused and asked her what was up.

She explained in a nutshell;


Anyway, I asked her why she had a change of feelings and was no longer interested. She said she "Did not know".


Anyway, I backed off completely as that's my emotional intelligence kicking in. I woke up to the earliest message I've ever received from her at 7 am stating;

"She expects a discussion about this, and doesn't appreciate being ignored...."

I still wasn't getting straight answers and so after the same repeat-rinse theme of;


I then basically thought I'll give her some space and told her so, and she agreed. But she then like queried what this break meant and I didn't reply.

Anyway, I gave it some breathing room and asked her for things to be more clear, as she was very confused with her behaviour. So she said:



Things then took another turn; which after a "Ship" had ended had never happened to me before;



I said I wasn't against talking to her, but I didn't want things to change. We followed each other back and Instagram.

I just told her;

"I didn't want things to change"


She just simply and sarcastically replied;

"I know......"

Summary:

And that's where things have been left. I've elected to not contact her, not in the hope that she gets back in contact but more so to give this some breathing room and some space and to concentrate on me and the things I love to do.

My friend advised me that she obviously really likes you, but something in her has caused her to want to stop in her tracks as she obviously got scared but won't admit that to me. It's not as if she wasn't interested in me, it's just the best thing to do is give her some space.

Thoughts?

My thoughts are she just wasn't really into you in the end