I want to get rid of the hurt from my ex

take this whole thing as a lesson. a VERY importsnt lesson that u will hold dear to ur heart till death.
the most loving thing u can do to ur ex is treat the next girl better than any other man in the universe.
be glad u even met ur ex. glad u were actually her boyfriend for a while. u have to let go tho, its gonna take time. take all the time u need, but busy urself and ur life with other things and u have to find purpose outside of women, in the meantime.

I don't think there will be another girl icl. I don't tend to attract people anyways, but also, despite knowing my shortcomings I can't seem to make them go away. It'd be wrong to stick someone with that. there are so many things, and it probably just sounds like me catastrophising, but I just can't see it. There's the big what if of if I ruined my only chance. and the other thing of her being the one for me, and I just. I really don't know, and I like the advice, but also I guess I struggle with the optimism of it.

Title is misleading. I'm gonna preface this with me being brutally honest. I don't deserve to feel the remorse. I don't deserve to feel sad, or miss her, or any of the things that I feel. That's not me being overdramatic, or seeking validation or whatever. It's the truth. I didn't treat her right, I wasn't what she deserved and I am fully aware of that. But I miss her. I'm an idiot. You only appreciate things once they're gone, that's the sad truth. And everyone keeps telling me things get better and all that crap. None of it helps. I wake up every day and miss her. I have nightmares about her. I spend all day thinking about her, missing her or thinking about all the tiny little things about her that made her special to me. And it's the most basic generic thing ever, I know I'm not the only one but everyone experiences this or worse. But I've been really struggling with my mental health for a very very very long time and I just keep seeming to get worse and worse, and one of the biggest contributors is her. I know I don't deserve to feel this way as I already said, but it still keeps coming every day over and over and over. Every moment of solace that I can gain is clouded by how I failed her. How do I move on. It's been like 5-6 months. I don't ever want to forget her, or lose what I have learnt. But I'm still bound to her. Every time I talk to someone I feel like I'm cheating, every time I see my reflection I see what failed her, every time I feel like I should move on I feel like I'm disrespecting her memory. I Just don't know what to do. Please help. It's not only painful for me, it's disrespectful to her. And no this isn't a pity party, looking for someone to say "No no you did nothing wrong" I absolutely did and I don't need the pity. Just help me feel better, but don't tell me I wasn't wrong because that's just not true. What do I do?

ur either optimistic and hope that u will find another girl which i think u will, there are many out there. and then have a chance of refinding love, and finding a women who loves u so much she will put aside ur weaknesses.
or be pessimistic and never even try, that way there isnt even the chance u will refind love.
what kind of shortcomings r u talking abt anyway?

Are you getting help for your mental health?
Do you think your condition is why you treated this girl badly or is there another reason and this has made you feel worse?

hi ! honestly i think that you should text her that instead of posting it on here. just tell her that you miss her and love her, and prove her that you have change by treating her better even if she’s not you gf anymore. you probably hurted her a lot so i really think that you should clarify things with her. gl !!!

My therapist said that I have tested oncistantly for the past two months with severe depression. But I'm already pursuing getting tested for ADHD so I'll probably wait before I do anything with the depression.
Honestly I know I stopped giving her enough of my time and paying attention to her enough, but also it was while my mother was, and is still being treated for cancer and my grandad passed away. And she stuck with me through some of it, and was really nice about it, but said she just wasn't getting what she needed. And I could say 'oh my mind was preoccupied' or stuff like that, but in all honesty I should've made more of an effort and I know it is mostly my fault. I could've been better and I know that, I should've been.