Do you believe in long distance relationship

Hey sorry to be the cynic here... but Wild Thing don't give your heart away so easily and so quickly! Sometimes a relationship can feel absolutely perfect and completely genuine - and it can still turn out to be not what it seems... Just be more careful with your heart :redface:

My grounds for saying that is the first and only relationship I've had really broke my heart :frown:

I broke up with him for religious reasons - but recently found out that on hindsight, he realises he was valuing all the wrong things in the relationship... so now I no longer know whether what we had was special - cus he was so special to me, but I no longer know where his heart was during it all :frown:

It had felt so perfect while I was in it though, when neither of us knew... That was a long distance relationship (ok he only lived 45min from me), lasted... officially 2 weeks, unofficially (the undercurrent one) a month or two :redface:

Met him on TSR in fact :redface:

Had my first kiss in Cambridge... *sigh*

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khil

Babyshambles

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khil

Babyshambles

meh, everyone thinks i'm a girl... :frown:

Hehe have you met Willa on TSR? :p:

He had to put his gender in his post in bold in his intro :biggrin:

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Mean Mr. Mustard

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Yes.. I've been hunting it down ever since I first saw it :p:

you can have my avatar... :smile:

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Sparkey

I'm currently in a Long(ish) distance relationship, My boyfriend lives about an hour away and he's always working so i don't get to see as often as we'd both like, but we talk every night either Via email or txt/phone and it seems to be working fine for me :smile:

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Angel_Cake

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JasonPaver

So it does work you think Angel Cake, but it just can be difficult for peripheral people?

Yeah, I think it can work unless the relationship is a bit shaky anyway. So long as you trust each other and won't spend all your time worrying and being paranoid - then you'd just both be miserable! Did you say you might be going to Paris? When I was with my ex-boyfriend, whenever we talked about going to university he'd get really angry if I said I wanted to do French because it would mean spending a year abroad - he'd go on and on about how he couldn't believe I was so keen to spend a year apart from him (he was a bit of a w****r). So I changed all my plans and decided I'd do English.

Then we split up and I suddenly realised that I WANTED to do languages and I wanted to go abroad - luckily it left enough time for me to change, but had I stayed with him I would have been stuck doing a course i wasn't that keen on, and we still probably would have split up! The moral of the story - don't let any boyfriend/girlfriend stop you from doing what you want to do, at least not at our age. If you have the opprtunity to spend time abroad, I say go for it :smile:

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Wild Thing

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irisng

Hey sorry to be the cynic here... but Wild Thing don't give your heart away so easily and so quickly! Sometimes a relationship can feel absolutely perfect and completely genuine - and it can still turn out to be not what it seems... Just be more careful with your heart :redface:

My grounds for saying that is the first and only relationship I've had really broke my heart :frown:

I broke up with him for religious reasons - but recently found out that on hindsight, he realises he was valuing all the wrong things in the relationship... so now I no longer know whether what we had was special - cus he was so special to me, but I no longer know where his heart was during it all :frown:

It had felt so perfect while I was in it though, when neither of us knew... That was a long distance relationship (ok he only lived 45min from me), lasted... officially 2 weeks, unofficially (the undercurrent one) a month or two :redface:

Met him on TSR in fact :redface:

Had my first kiss in Cambridge... *sigh*

thank you Miss irisng for looking out for me :smile:

but we've been speaking since December every day, and its only been 2 days since we're going out...so I know him quite well in a way. I know what you mean about it not being genuine :redface:

and maybe i like him so much I try to always see his good sides (though he doesn't have any bad ones :biggrin:

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I'm so sorry that guy didn't value you to what you're really worth!Most guys are idiots that only look for sex in a realtionship (though many aren't :smile:

) and I'm sorry he broke your heart....he wasn't worth it I'm sure! Would you tell me who it is (which Tsrian :p:

) ?
I promise you I'll be more careful but I like him so much and apparently he does too :redface:

but you're totally right, I should be careful. Though..how long had you been talking to this guy? And did you trust eachother a lot?

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I say nuts to what other people think... if you and him both wanna try it, then go for it! How else will you know?? The stability of these relationships differ enormously (as you can see from the varying replies to this thread!). I know someone in a very long-distance relationship (Brunei - Loughborough) and that's been going well over a year :smile:

So ... you just don't know. One thing I would say, though, is not to become too dependent on the other... you'd be amazed at how easily people can lose trust in their long-distance partner (if, say, this guy had his internet access taken away.. or for some reason wasn't able to communicate with you for a while - what would you be thinking?).

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Barny

You say do you believe in a long distance relationship as if they...dont exist?

Long distance relationships can work, but why would you want them to? You never get to see each other etc. so it would be pretty ****.

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imasillynarb

You say do you believe in a long distance relationship as if they...dont exist?

Long distance relationships can work, but why would you want them to? You never get to see each other etc. so it would be pretty ****.

1. Because you think the other is just *that* special. :smile:

2. It makes it even better when you are together.

3. The possibility of actually being physically close to each other someday.

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Wild Thing

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Onearmedbandit

1. Because you think the other is just *that* special. :smile:

2. It makes it even better when you are together.

3. The possibility of actually being physically close to each other someday.

exactly!

1) Im tired of jst pulling ppl and dnt see the point in it :confused:

2) I love him so much its unbelievable!
3) Im going to live in London in 4 months so no hurry
4) I totally trust him

so Mr Narb there :eviltongu
:biggrin:

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wild thing

exactly!

1) Im tired of jst pulling ppl and dnt see the point in it :confused:

2) I love him so much its unbelievable!
3) Im going to live in London in 4 months so no hurry
4) I totally trust him

so Mr Narb there :eviltongu
:biggrin:

Who is it?

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Wild Thing

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Onearmedbandit

Who is it?

didn't I tell you??? You didn't meet him, wasn't any of the guys we went out to have dinner with but he was at Corpus for Classics :smile:

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