I was planning to propose but there has been a death in family. Should I delay it?

I was planning to propose on a fancy trip away next week but my girlfriend's grandfather has just died whom she was close to. She is really upset but still wants to go on the trip.

Should I postpone the proposal to another time?

I have not got the ring yet but had picked one out and was planning on getting it at the weekend. It is a really nice ring.

I was planning to propose on a fancy trip away next week but my girlfriend's grandfather has just died whom she was close to. She is really upset but still wants to go on the trip.

Should I postpone the proposal to another time?

I have not got the ring yet but had picked one out and was planning on getting it at the weekend. It is a really nice ring.

No no. The funeral has already happened. I would be proposing 9 days after it.

I seriously never understood the big deal about grandparents dying. What do you expect? No one is immortal; it's just stupid to get very upset over something like that. Just hold and cherish the good memories and move on with your life. Crying and grieving will achieve nothing.

Anyway, I digress. I personally would go ahead anyway. Depends on how your girlfriend is coping though.

That's a very rational way of looking at it. 'Crying and grieving' is a natural response to the loss of someone close to you - it's not about 'achieving' anything. And I do find that some men tend to approach grief in a more goal-oriented way than women sometimes. I am the same as the other person who quoted you, my grandparents were like second parents to me - age and knowing they will sooner rather than later is irrelevant.

Anyway OP, my grandad died last month and my advice would be...do what you think is right. You know your girlfriend better than anyone - what does your gut say you should do? I would suggest you go away on the break and have a lovely time. I'm sure it will be great news but everyone reacts to grief so differently - if your girlfriend was close to her grandfather she will probably want to grieve in her own time. Personally, I would want the space to work through my grief so that when my other half did propose - I wouldn't want to look back and think of it as a time when I was struggling. Perhaps wait a little while? Let her deal with one emotion at a time. Even if it is wonderful it might be a lot to deal with right now. Let your knowledge of your girlfriend and her feelings guide you.

Also nothing against males but from the responses I have seen in this thread so far I would definitely take more notice of the responses you are getting from women. More emotional/probably more relevant to your gf!

Maybe you weren't as close to your grandparents as some, but my maternal grandparents I consider my second set of parents. I stay over at their house in the holidays because I love spending time with them (I'm 19), my Grandad is the best storyteller I know and my Gran is always there to make me feel better.
I know one day they have to die but that won't make their passing any easier for me, crying and grieving is a process you go through when you lose someone so close. I will cherish the memories but it will crush me that I won't be able to make any more memories with them.

But you knew this would happen anyway. I don't understand why anyone would let themselves go through the agony/sorrow.

When things happen I tend to get past it extremely quickly because I know one day I will get over it anyway, so I think, why not just get over it now? I realise this is very robotic and inhuman though.

I was planning to propose on a fancy trip away next week but my girlfriend's grandfather has just died whom she was close to. She is really upset but still wants to go on the trip.

Should I postpone the proposal to another time?

I have not got the ring yet but had picked one out and was planning on getting it at the weekend. It is a really nice ring.

like many others have said, its entirely up to you I think you're obviously really sweet and considerate about the whole thing, good on you. Only you can sense how her reaction to it might be.

In my own personal opinion, even though she may be grieving, a proposal from you (i'm guessing you're the love of her life) would rather make her day it would brighten up, from what you've said, what i'm guessing has been a pretty horrendous time for her.

Maybe she will be thrilled and say that this is just what her granddad would have wanted? I'm sure she would be delighted with a proposal, if you're sure you're at the right stage of the relationship for it.

Also, you wouldn't necessarily have to announce it straight away. She could keep it secret for couple of weeks before breaking the news, as a mark of respect so as not to make it look like she's forgotten about her bereavement? If you see what I mean

For anyone who cares she said yes!

For anyone who cares she said yes!