Dad said that he was glad i was a girl because of this..

not my dad no, because he was never as hard working and never gave as much attention or care as my mom was when it came to looking after me when i was growing up and going to school.

i definitely would for my mom, she doesn't deserve all the sh*t my dad gives her still to this day and everything she's done for me, wow i'd spend everything on her just so that she could have a better life.

its admirable you would do that for your mu, my mum practically disowned her kids and didnt care for them anymore, no matter how angry and how much i hated her i still loved her and cared even when i didnt want to, its so complicated loving someone and hating then so much at the same time, i guess its because shes my mother

10?

What did he do? Did he leave you? Abuse you? Or is he just strict?

Unless it's the former two, nothing qualifies a "I don't care what he'll do later on" statement - he's feeding you, housing you and even giving you internet to whine on TSR.

Same, funnily enough I will feel like helping. my mum to the extent that i can cope with (preferably not personal care) , when i had anxiety growing up she had empathy and tried to help but my dad just called me loopy and a lazy bitch.

dude have you seen 10 year old girls these days?!
DADDY MY IPHONE BROKE *throws tantrum and starts screaming and crying til daddy promises to get another one*

honestly my dad is your mum but 20x worse

you know when girls be like annoyed and you have like a scale of that?
like it probably starts off with ok then goes to not good, bad, terrible, then you have right at the top fine when you r super pissed?
well my dad's at that stage where he's such a **** about almost everything and the fact that he's cheery and smiley about it makes everything so much worse ;(

well i mean when you were shitting yourself and puking all over him for like the first 3 years of your life, and then crying and snotting all over him til you were like 10, and he had to endure that so why dont you think about him for once?

true dat

so many younger years in my school have grown f**king huge ego's and are too prideful

Apparantly I was really quiet. Yea in the unlikely event that i have kids I wouldnt expect them to look after me when im old, they wouldnt owe it to me because I chose to bring them into the world. I would have had my life and it would make sense for them to have theirs not look after me.

i feel bad for you, its a horrible feeling i know what its like, im so glad i have my dad through all this, hes honestly the best parent i could ask for and i have a stepmum whos been like a mum to me and cares so much, if you ever want to talk about it and let off steam then pm me

ikr it's like bitch u want me to get the belt? but for real they don't know what privilege is ¬_¬

wow you dont want to look after your parents after they looked after to and raised you your whole life. i owe everything to my parents, i would be a full time carer to them if i needed to.

This is why carers get paid so little of course.

RE: kids looking after their parents in old age.

People having kids is a choice. When people have kids, they (for the most part) accept the responsibility that comes with that choice.

Looking after your parents as they descend into the mental chaos that is their 70s and 80s is also a choice. To suggest otherwise, in the vein of "your parents looked after you therefore you must look after them!", is emotional blackmail.

The parents asked for a kid. The result is their responsibility.
The kid didn't ask to be born, which kind of absolves them of any responsibility concerning "your parents did x therefore you must do x".


It's a rather black and white way of looking at things, granted. But I'm not becoming a carer to anyone during my golden years (or at any point in my life, actually. I hate people ), regardless of what impact they had on my life.

Now before anyone loses their **** and completely misinterprets that, I'm not saying I won't do anything for my parents. If I've got the money then I'll make sure they're well looked after. I'll pop in from time to time and make sure, personally, that they're doing ok. But I ain't wiping their arses.

So for everyone who's saying that they'd love to be their parents carer when they're older because they owe it to them or however they're trying to justify their moral outrage against people who don't share the same opinion... good luck with that. You'll be bathroom buddies with the people who created you. And if that's what you want, congratulations on having more staying power than I.

I could parse the incorrect use of punctuation, but I don't understand your father's quote. After isn't a verb, so the sentence is nonsensical.

Sexism at it's finest. That is not acceptable in the slightest OP. I'd happily look after my parents in their old age, I'd want to. But not because I am a woman and it would be my duty to...


As a side note, this is a perfect illustration of the type of sexism that exists in countries such as the UK. Yes it's not explicit oppression, such as what goes on in third world countries, but it is still worthy of attention. It's still a very damaging attitude.