why muslim and hindu relationships are hard...

So i broke with my bf yesterday, apparantly there wasn't any point in continuing the relationship if we weren't going to get married.And the idea of marrying him was out of the question, as he realised that he loves his parents more than he loves me. So it lasted 3 years, most amazing 3 years..

Im obviously upset, I'm not going to deny that I didn't know what i was letting myself in for, i guess I got more and more naive as the years went by.

I think he's been a bit stupid, and just thought his mum and dad would be fine with it.. but he's realised kinda too late. Especially when feelings deep deep feelings get involved.

The long distance thing aswel, its hard coming back up and down from London...

Im supposed to be muslim, he's hindu so It was never going to be the
right thing to do.. I have to grateful for the time we have had.

Im not looking for advice, just some thoughts I guess.

How can you be someone's friend, when you've had an actively sexual, loving and intense relationship... with them?

I'm all cried out now- yep I need to get over it, move on and stop being so ... " he's the one". Maybe I need to be more careful with who I fall in love with.. stick to the "right" kind. Or maybe he just simply didn't love me enough...(which is very true- otherwise we would stick by each other till the very end)..

I have a pet name for him its hard to lose that "thing" and the little things you said to each other...

My coping strategy is usually to just blank people- thats the worst thing. Just not talk to him, I can't remember a day where I haven't not spoken to him!

I just want and needed to blow off steam..

From what I know, Muslims can't marry Hindus, only Christians and Jews, and in any case, only Muslim me can do this (another thread on here, maybe), but from what it seems, he indeed doesn't 'love you enough'.

But think for a minute. India? Are you saying all Hindu/Muslim relationships were/are doomed to fail?

What I'll say is that a religious conversion on either side would be harmful. So with both Hindu and Muslim parents, what becomes of the child(ren)? That's the most important question to religious families, stupid though it would seem to anyone who isn't religious.

Let it lie? Maybe he'll get in rekindle the flame if he... (this last bit sounds so 'sad, teenage dumped-girly', in a 'if he's the one, he'll come back to you' sense).

You could ask yourself what love is - break it down into basic emotions and elements and then ask yourself whether someone else can make you feel the same way (in a world of more than 6 billion, the answer's almost certainly yes).

Only male Muslims can marry to people of the book (Christians and Jews)- Women can't.

Misogyny.

Only male Muslims can marry to people of the book (Christians and Jews)- Women can't.

Misogyny.

Annoyingly sexist... muslim men can have 4 wives too

Annoyingly sexist... muslim men can have 4 wives too

Some kids are so stupid thinking the relationships they'll have now will lead to marriage. That only happens once in a blue moon, OP your boyfriend is just plain stupid.

Religion isn't directly the problem here, it's that he thinks you can't get married (because of your religion). But presumably he couldn't have been so religious because he did go out with a non muslim, which means the reason he's left you is because he genuinely believes the relationship he'll have now will lead to marriage so naive and stupid.

It baffles me how people start relationships in the knowledge that they're not the same religion and then end up breaking up because of this same reason.

How is having 4 wives sexist?
Monogamy is too cruel of a rule polygamy is what it's all about

It's hard for Hindus to mary outside their caste, never mind outside their religion.

You're not really a....

Some kids are so stupid thinking the relationships they'll have now will lead to marriage. That only happens once in a blue moon, OP your boyfriend is just plain stupid.

Religion isn't directly the problem here, it's that he thinks you can't get married (because of your religion). But presumably he couldn't have been so religious because he did go out with a non muslim, which means the reason he's left you is because he genuinely believes the relationship he'll have now will lead to marriage so naive and stupid.

It baffles me how people start relationships in the knowledge that they're not the same religion and then end up breaking up because of this same reason.

All Asians, no?