21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(

I’ve recently turned 21, have a lot going for me but i’ve never had a girlfriend I have no experience at all, i've had one kiss on the cheek from a friend and that is it. I’m really enjoying my life atm but i do feel like there is something badly wrong with me.

I'm at uni and i've made plenty of friends. I’m in societies, I go out several times a week, I’m well known in my halls and I’ve got a job. I’ve been told so many times that I’m a really nice person and a good friend, I can make people laugh, I’m always friendly and people clearly like talking to me. I know so many girls and i have no issue getting to know and forming friendships with them.

Nobody believes me when i say i've never had a girlfriend but i don't know what to do. I don't know how to flirt or how you tell if someone likes you, i don't want to take the risk because the answer will be no. I don't have any confidence that a girl could be attracted to me when there are so many 'better' guys out there, either she would feel offended if i told her or her friends will go ''what is she doing with him?''

I'm so insecure about my appearance, but i look after myself and I’m often complimented on my dress sense/aftershave etc. I go out several times a week with my friends and when I look at the Facebook photos the next morning, I always look hideous. No wonder nobody is interested. but i work for a fashion retailer and surely if I was really ugly they wouldn’t have hired me?

Some of the single people in my group always seem to pull and i've been told that i should just try and find a drunk girl in a club but i'm not good looking, i wouldn't get anywhere. Besides i don't see the appeal in snogging someone whos name you don't even know to 'get it out of the way'. I want to meet a nice girl and get to know her properly. Everyone else seems to be able to, why can't i?

I've got lots of interests and friends so i'm not spending all my time looking for a girlfriend, but i'm getting increasingly worried. Most girls would be experienced by now, if they met someone in my situation it would be such a downgrade. I'm starting to fear it won't ever happen. All my friends are or have been in a relationship and when this topic comes up i always feel so left out.

Sorry this is so long but what can i do?

I feel you bro. It WILL happen eventually though as long as you're proactive.

You don't have to be good looking to get a girlfriend. You don't even have to be that good looking to be a player. Good sense of style and solid grooming is normally enough.

Don't worry about the 'experience' thing either. Your first couple of times might be a bit awkward, yes. But you'll be surprised how easy it is to catch up. All you need to do is read up a bit on sexual technique, feign confidence and practice for a couple of weeks with your girlfriend when you get one. Then you'll be pretty much at the same level as most other people.

You've got a lot of friends so you've obviously got something going for you. And you're meeting enough women. As far as I can tell then, the main problem is just that you aren't making (enough) moves on girls. I bet there are some girls you know who are interested in you. But women will rarely make the first move and it's up to you to make something happen.

There is no 'risk' in trying it on with a girl. None. If you succeed then . If you get turned down, you've lost nothing. If anything the girl will respect you more for having the guts to put yourself on the line. And if you do lose a friendship over it - **** it - you never really wanted to be just friends anyway. I can honestly say I have never made a move on a girl that I would take back. The only regrets I have are the girls I let slip through my fingers because I didn't have the balls to approach.

Anyway, if you really want to crack this, PM me and I'll show you an amazing website that'll massively help.

I feel you bro. It WILL happen eventually though as long as you're proactive.

You don't have to be good looking to get a girlfriend. You don't even have to be that good looking to be a player. Good sense of style and solid grooming is normally enough.

Don't worry about the 'experience' thing either. Your first couple of times might be a bit awkward, yes. But you'll be surprised how easy it is to catch up. All you need to do is read up a bit on sexual technique, feign confidence and practice for a couple of weeks with your girlfriend when you get one. Then you'll be pretty much at the same level as most other people.

You've got a lot of friends so you've obviously got something going for you. And you're meeting enough women. As far as I can tell then, the main problem is just that you aren't making (enough) moves on girls. I bet there are some girls you know who are interested in you. But women will rarely make the first move and it's up to you to make something happen.

There is no 'risk' in trying it on with a girl. None. If you succeed then . If you get turned down, you've lost nothing. If anything the girl will respect you more for having the guts to put yourself on the line. And if you do lose a friendship over it - **** it - you never really wanted to be just friends anyway. I can honestly say I have never made a move on a girl that I would take back. The only regrets I have are the girls I let slip through my fingers because I didn't have the balls to approach.

Anyway, if you really want to crack this, PM me and I'll show you an amazing website that'll massively help.

well, this also can happen to girls too,i know many girls in this kind of situation, i was one,but i only could start meeting guys after i stopped looking for it.
Just live your life, take care of your body and appearance, enjoy your friends and hobbies, and when you meet a girl take care to not be placed in the friendzone,be nice to them but show some interest too, i think that many guys cant get girlfriends because of that, many guys meet girls and put them in a pedestal and become their loser friend, so when you meet girls,create attraction,show your habilities, show how interesting you are,but dont look desperate or they will notice and run away.

I feel you bro. It WILL happen eventually though as long as you're proactive.

You don't have to be good looking to get a girlfriend. You don't even have to be that good looking to be a player. Good sense of style and solid grooming is normally enough.

You've got a lot of friends so you've obviously got something going for you. And you're meeting enough women. As far as I can tell then, the main problem is just that you aren't making (enough) moves on girls. I bet there are some girls you know who are interested in you. But women will rarely make the first move and it's up to you to make something happen.

There is no 'risk' in trying it on with a girl. None. If you succeed then . If you get turned down, you've lost nothing. If anything the girl will respect you more for having the guts to put yourself on the line. And if you do lose a friendship over it - **** it - you never really wanted to be just friends anyway. I can honestly say I have never made a move on a girl that I would take back. The only regrets I have are the girls I let slip through my fingers because I didn't have the balls to approach.

Anyway, if you really want to crack this, PM me and I'll show you an amazing website that'll massively help.

I wouldn't be put off by your situation at all, in fact, I'd respect it so much more.
I'm at uni too, have recently come out of a 3 year relationship where me and my ex only ever knew eachother. So I've slept with one boy and am frankly intimidated and put off by guys who get 3 or more one night stands every week.
I'd want a guy who actually had morals and didn't want to "get things over with", definitely. And that's even when I've had some experience, so there are definitely girls out there who feel the same as you, who haven't had any either.
It sounds like deep down you know what you want, so I think you shouldn't succumb to the pressure. I think you should, with girls you like, try talking to them that little bit more, meeting up alone a bit more, tiny things will tell you whether they like you and want it go go further. It doesn't matter about your experience at all and hopefully you'll find a girl soon who can make all these insecurities disappear.

It would seem the solution is not so much something you can do, but an attitude you can change. You're clearly a sociable individual with plenty of interests, so it can't be the case that you're unable to meet women due to your lifestyle. Confidence and - crucially - stressing less about meeting women are going to see you do better. You'll psyche yourself out of actually meeting anyone if you're always worried about meeting someone.

maybe you're gay