I refuse to chase women

Because like it or not we are genetically designed to desire and persue people we find attractive.

THANK YOU OP. My boyfriend has the exact same opinion as you and that was part of the reason I liked him so much.

If you refuse to chase women you might not be as lucky as my boyfriend to find someone who doesn't enjoy being tempted by advances, free food and gifts. But who knows, good luck.

I don't think many would, but if any guys are reading this NEVER get a girl you aren't going out with gifts. She isn't a prostitute, this isn't a transaction of wealth for love.

Thanks for posting this. I've had that happen to me before and it was awkward. It didn't feel genuine 'cause I knew he wanted to date me. I thought, "what do I do in return? Go out with him?". It was really off-putting and it felt like he was trying to buy my affection.

ma bf says most guysare dumb and silly beacause they think that we as girls, ourlooks are very important. guys by convention go for pretty girls.but the truth is if we have smelly or weird tasting vaginAs then noguy would like us. so ifyou think youare pretty well good on ya. i rather have my orifice smelling and taskting nice and yummy.

Exactly, this is kinda linked to the whole "nice guy" thing, is it really charming to try and buy a girls affection? It's hardly a solid way to start a relationship.

If you are chasing a girl, all you should really be doing is texting her semi-regularly and seeing her casually, grand gestures are for films.

I will never, ever pursue a man. If he likes me enough then he will come after me, simple. Unfortunately it's how things work.

I will never, ever pursue a man. If he likes me enough then he will come after me, simple. Unfortunately it's how things work.

I agree. I'm not sacrificing my dignity for some guy's ego.

But what's special about you? I'm not saying you should 'chase' per se, but why this kind of refusnik pride about 'Oh I shouldn't have to make the effort'? 'I'm female'? It's like you resent men and will reluctantly accommodate them if they get on one knee and debase themselves?

Just saying. There's lots of old lonely women who were full of pride when they were young.

Nope you read me wrong and I can't be bothered responding to you if you should insult me by making assumptions about my character. Try some empathy. Try putting yourself in a woman's shoes for once. I'm sorry your past experiences with women have turned you into a whiny bitch but I won't be the focus for your aggression.

My point is that when men say women should chase men, they're not thinking in the woman's interest. It's about how they feel. Chasing does not work for me as an individual. I don't like wearing the trousers when I'm being courted. This is me. Other women have their own opinions.

Chasing a man would mean the loss of my self-respect. Smiling and initiating conversation and flirting is fine. But I won't EVER chase a man.

I'm not sacrificing my dignity for some guy's ego.

Nope you read me wrong and I can't be bothered responding to you if you should insult me by making assumptions about my character. Try some empathy. Try putting yourself in a woman's shoes for once. I'm sorry your past experiences with women have turned you into a whiny bitch but I won't be the focus for your aggression.

My point is that when men say women should chase men, they're not thinking in the woman's interest. It's about how they feel. Chasing does not work for me as an individual. I don't like wearing the trousers when I'm being courted. This is me. Other women have their own opinions.

Chasing a man would mean the loss of my self-respect. Smiling and initiating conversation and flirting is fine. But I won't EVER chase a man.

I refuse to chase women because I want to preserve my 100% no rejection record

A bit of chase is fun but when they carry on playing hard to get I then just get bored and go elsewhere.