Guys - would you be turned off if a girl texted constantly?
I have been seeing this guy for almost half a year (he still hans't asked me out :/) and I fear I am texting him way too much. He lives far and doesn't like calling. So I end up missing him and sending him lots of texts a day. He replies every day but I feel his enthusiasm is waning and the spark is dying. Like he doesn't flirt anywhere near as much as he used to and he often ignores important messages like me being ill or upset. Yet I can't stop myself from texting him. I think it is more attention seeking and needing reassurance that he still likes me but the more he ignores me the worse I get. Guys your opinion??
Original post by Josh93
If he ignores your text messages and 'hasn't asked you out' then you aren't seeing him.
Not necessarily. To me, "seeing someone" is the time between first meeting them and "going out". Hence, you ask someone out you do not ask them to see you.
Urban dictionary seems to agree:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=seeing%20someone
Original post by Josh93
If he ignores your text messages and 'hasn't asked you out' then you aren't seeing him.
If you're that into him that you can't stop messaging him then maybe you should consider making a move yourself..?
If you're that into him that you can't stop messaging him then maybe you should consider making a move yourself..?
He does reply, just not as frequently as I text. The problem is the distance. When we are together we both feel such a spark. Just we are both studying at different unis and don't get to see each other often.
Original post by Anonymous
He does reply, just not as frequently as I text. The problem is the distance. When we are together we both feel such a spark. Just we are both studying at different unis and don't get to see each other often.
Long distance relationships are hard, even when the couple have been "seeing eachother" for a while. So unless you guys live close together nothing serious is going to happen in the near future really :/
I love it 
Mainly because all the girls who text me never give me the standard:
"hi"
"hi"
"wuu2"
"nothing much, you?"
"same"
And partly because they all text coherently, if I see a "wuu2" I am a bit repelled
Mainly because all the girls who text me never give me the standard:"hi"
"hi"
"wuu2"
"nothing much, you?"
"same"
And partly because they all text coherently, if I see a "wuu2" I am a bit repelled
If the texts are interesting and the female doesn't mind a slow reply then fine.
Original post by Anonymous
I have been seeing this guy for almost half a year (he still hans't asked me out :/) and I fear I am texting him way too much. He lives far and doesn't like calling. So I end up missing him and sending him lots of texts a day. He replies every day but I feel his enthusiasm is waning and the spark is dying. Like he doesn't flirt anywhere near as much as he used to and he often ignores important messages like me being ill or upset. Yet I can't stop myself from texting him. I think it is more attention seeking and needing reassurance that he still likes me but the more he ignores me the worse I get. Guys your opinion??
probably your definition of "important" and his are quite different.
Original post by Anonymous
I have been seeing this guy for almost half a year (he still hans't asked me out :/) and I fear I am texting him way too much. He lives far and doesn't like calling. So I end up missing him and sending him lots of texts a day. He replies every day but I feel his enthusiasm is waning and the spark is dying. Like he doesn't flirt anywhere near as much as he used to and he often ignores important messages like me being ill or upset. Yet I can't stop myself from texting him. I think it is more attention seeking and needing reassurance that he still likes me but the more he ignores me the worse I get. Guys your opinion??
If someone texted me saying 'I'm ill' or 'I'm upset', I wouldn't bother replying either because it seems needy.
OP, I have the same problem as you but with a current boyfriend of 2 years!
There's nothing to do but stop yourself from texting him. I think it just irritates him if there's too many texts. Different people have different thresholds as well. Some people would see 5 texts a day as too much and others would see the same amount of texts as too little. I know it's hard but just respect his privacy. It's actually a great thing that you're not constantly breathing down each other's necks like some other couples do.
One thing to note though: don't intentionally ignore him as revenge when he does eventually talk to you. It's usually tempting but that's just playing a sick game.
There's nothing to do but stop yourself from texting him. I think it just irritates him if there's too many texts. Different people have different thresholds as well. Some people would see 5 texts a day as too much and others would see the same amount of texts as too little. I know it's hard but just respect his privacy. It's actually a great thing that you're not constantly breathing down each other's necks like some other couples do.
One thing to note though: don't intentionally ignore him as revenge when he does eventually talk to you. It's usually tempting but that's just playing a sick game.
Original post by maskofsanity
Not necessarily. To me, "seeing someone" is the time between first meeting them and "going out". Hence, you ask someone out you do not ask them to see you.
Urban dictionary seems to agree:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=seeing%20someone
Urban dictionary seems to agree:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=seeing%20someone
Well, if it's in the urban dictionary then I'm certainly not going to argue
(edited 11 years ago)
I wouldn't. Although that might just be because it'd make a nice change from girls who just don't seem to give a ****.
I'd defo say to give him some space. If he's worth it then, in time, he'll return to his usual self. 😊
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Original post by Josh93
Well, if it's in the urban dictionary then I'm certainly not going to argue
You misunderstood. I was simply saying that it's subjective, i.e. different people use different phrasing and gave urban dictionary as an example beyond myself.
To argue your point though, are you actually being picky about the source of slang definitions?! That website is the most popular in terms of google page rank. Here are a couple others in agreement with me:
http://www.examiner.com/article/lexicon-of-dating-terminology
http://www.differencebetween.net/miscellaneous/difference-between-dating-and-seeing-someone/
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