Guy friend being cold because I don't fancy him back

He could be being petty by cold-shouldering you, or it could be he doesn't quite know how to deal with your rejection. It's pretty rare for someone to be able to confess feelings for another, be turned down, and then act normally straight away, after all. Giving him some time and acting as you always have is probably the best idea.

This was way back in January. It's been a whole term and a holiday and he still doesn't seem to like me

I can understand if he doesn't want to be as close as we used to, I just wish stuff wasn't so awkward between us.

Good for him, he isn't going to be an orbiter.

Hmm, in that case, it might be a good idea to talk to him about it? If you tell him you want to be friends (and actually act like normal friends), then he can decide whether he feels up to that or not. I guess it depends how much he likes you. If he likes you a lot it's probably going to be pretty painful being a friend without being anything more.

A conversation might rock the boat a little, but if it's awkward and you don't like the current situation anyway, you should try and clear the air, or even just find out what's going through his head.

I did when I turned him down. I don't know how to talk to him without making it horrible for him, though, or seeming like I'm making a big deal over nothing. If he doesn't want to talk to me, fair enough, but I don't know if he's just staying away from me because he thinks I don't really want to be friends, or something.

Well, being rejected probably cut quite deep, it's hard to keep up a friendship after that. It's possible he's chosen a "you're a bitch" stance to make himself feel better about why he was rejected though. Not to try and defend him, but I understand the pain of that, and it's quite hard to think straight afterwards. It'll probably always be awkward unless he finds a new love interest, but even then he might still feel something towards you, be it resentment or love interest. I deeeeeeeefinitely wouldn't bother confronting him about it, you won't get very far; unless you decide to date him. You'll just have to live with it, try and act as you normally would.

Just leave it... he's just bitter about being rejected.

If he decides to fall back on friendship, then he'll eventually start talking to you etc.

Just leave it... he's just bitter about being rejected.

If he decides to fall back on friendship, then he'll eventually start talking to you etc.

I don't understand how he can be bitter about it? It's not like he's going around slandering the OP. He knew what he wanted, made his intentions clear, OP rejected him and now he's cut contact and moved on. He doesn't want friendship and more power to him.

If anything OP sounds bitter because she cannot comprerehend that anyone can keep being her lapdog after being rejected.

We need more men like this who don't give a **** and move on as opposed to keeping things at a "friendship" level begging for a chance.

you are not his entitlement.

it hurts to be rejected so you'd expected him to keep his distance or even be angry for a bit (not that it's fair but hey, we're all human), but if he no longer wants to be your friend then it's his loss! if he was only seeking friendship from you because he wanted to be with you then it was a fickle friendship from the start.

it sounds like you did it as gently as you could and you have a very good reason! being overly nice to win his affection back may give out the wrong signals, so i guess the best thing to do would be to behave towards him how you would if none of it had ever happened. idk imagine he'd never asked you out and you were friends as before, act the same way?

We're not super close but he seems like a decent chap, although quite sensitive and shy. ATM it's really awkward between us to. I tried to turn him down as nicely as I could, but he barely looks at me and won't talk to my other friends if they're also talking to me.

Should I just leave it or try being nicer to him? Worried that the former will just make our friendship "fizzle out," but I don't want to give him the wrong impression and hurt him again either.

Given that most of your posts on other threads equal "I hate wimmen, wimmen have no logic!!! 1111" - anything but bitter, right? - I don't think this insult really deserves the a response.

Haha it's actually amazing. If a guy made this thread complaning about being rejected no doubt cries of "man up", "deal with it" would be heard. But now because you're a girl and got friendship rejected everyone is sympathetic and calling the guy names such as "bitter" although what he's done is anything but.

So listen up cupcake, as another poster put it, he is not your entitlement, now man up and deal with it. This thread is an example of exactly what happens when women are denied what they want and/or things don't pan out how they want. Anyone who wants to succeed should take note.

Haha it's actually amazing. If a guy made this thread complaning about being rejected no doubt cries of "man up", "deal with it" would be heard. But now because you're a girl and got friendship rejected everyone is sympathetic and calling the guy names such as "bitter" although what he's done is anything but.

So listen up cupcake, as another poster put it, he is not your entitlement, now man up and deal with it. This thread is an example of exactly what happens when women are denied what they want and/or things don't pan out how they want, they've never witnessed any form of rejection in their life that once it hapoens it absolutely blows their mond. Anyone who wants to succeed with women should take note. Again I cannot praise the chap in the OP more. Good on him not being a beta orbiter, a lapdog if you will while OP messes with his emotions. There's a phrase to describe guys like him; alpha as ****.