'What happens on tour, stays on tour'

"you know they say 'what happens on tour stays on tour'...?"

Haha, thanks. I sort of wish I had a nice, remote, bottomless black hole to throw him into right now

Him saying that makes him sound like a dick anyway tbh

Ah, you'll get over him soon enough. At least it wasn't serious or anything like that. There's always a rick in keeping casual relations that one party will go off with someone else. You've either got to be prepared to accept it or not get involved in the first place IMO.

See, this is why you discuss these things, if you want exclusivity in the future make sure you tell the guy!

Surely the fact that he told you right after he got back and didn't try to pretend nothing happened must show that he at least cares about your feelings a bit and respects you.

If he's got really drunk then he probably wasn't thinking things through and as you say it's only a 'casual' relationship, surely his drunken mind will have seen that to mean it was ok at the time?

It was exclusive - must have forgotten to put that in my original post. Mostly it was 'casual' in the sense that it was only short term, i.e. until uni, rather than indefinite.

This is wrong

Surely the fact that he told you right after he got back and didn't try to pretend nothing happened must show that he at least cares about your feelings a bit and respects you.

If he's got really drunk then he probably wasn't thinking things through and as you say it's only a 'casual' relationship, surely his drunken mind will have seen that to mean it was ok at the time?

But why stay loyal for something that was ending soon? Seems a stupid arrangement to get into really ..

He told one of our mutual friends that he wanted to 'do the right thing' and tell me the truth. If you ask me, the right thing would have been to not do it at all. I'm almost certain he would have been pretty indignant if I'd done the same to him.

Call me cynical, but I feel like the reality is most likely that he found he preferred her, and decided to tell me so he could break our thing off and potentially start one with her. I'll be surprised if he isn't still seeing her.

Or maybe this person's going to the same uni to him or one closer or doesn't mind a long distance relationship.

You said it's only until uni, so why are you getting really worked up over it? Maybe he saw it as more of a friends w/ benefits situation or is just a d*ck? who knows? But if you've made a mutual agreement that you'll only go out until uni, then why are you so annoyed?