I'm 22 and he's 23. We met 4 months ago (so we've been together for 4 months now). And he's my first love, the first guy I ever fell for. He has been with others before, but he told me that I'm different, that he actually loves me and sees a future with me and all that. It took me a while but I believed him. He made me feel so special, loved, and raised my confidence and everything. (I'm very insecure).
Now, he's abroad on vacation and it's been 6 weeks now (he's coming back in a few days), and ever since we've been apart, we were both upset, but then he became a bit distant. Like he doesn't Whatsapp me unless I do it first, and every time i send him something romantic or a voice note, I get no response and he changes the subject. When I confronted him once about it, he said a response will come when the "time is right". Wth? I felt like I was a bit too clingy so I backed off and didm talk for a few days. That's when he messaged me and asked me if I was okay and I was like yea.
But I feel like things are different, like he's distant, and I don't know why. My friend was like he's probably sad and misses you but doesnt want to dwell on it so he's distracting himself. I don't know... he's always getting high now that he's abroad and my best friend asked him if me and him talk and he was like: "nah xD he kills my buzz" .... what am I supposed to say to that?
Anyway, so it was our plan that we would live together in an apartment and stuff while we both do masters. I got accepted and I'm already in the apartment but he doesn't know that because I didn't tell him. I told him that the university rejected me and that I'm going to go back home to work and he responded by " .... " and my best friend was like he's clearly upset but doesn't want to talk about it.
So I don't know... am i overthinking things? Why is he being the way he is? I'm planning on surprising him by going to the airport and picking him up. He won't expect it at all. I just don't know what to think anymore :/