Single people in your 20s- how much sex do you have?

Original post by cole-slaw

Its definitely best to (subtly) make your interest clear straight away. Quite often if a girl finds you interesting and attractive, she will soon decide she wants to sleep with you. Once she has decided this, you just need to give her the opportunity and it will happen. This could be after 10 minutes, it could be after a handful of encounters.

There is no need for long drawn out courting rituals. Flirt hard, flirt early, and flirt often. As soon as you can see she is interested, carefully escalate towards physical contact, and create a scenario where it seems natural for something to happen Timing is crucial. If you escalate too soon, its game over, but if you leave it too long, she might lose interest in you or think you're not interested in her.

I'm skeptical as to whether that has ever actually happened to me. As to the rest of your post, I can't tell at all. Like I said as far as I am aware it has never actually happened. I don't know what I am doing and can't see that changing anytime soon. I'm going to be 22 in a few days time... :banghead:

But life goes on. I'm still alive. :yy:

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Original post by ChaoticButterfly

I'm skeptical as to whether that has ever actually happened to me. As to the rest of your post, I can't tell at all. Like I said as far as I am aware it has never actually happened. I don't know what I am doing and can't see that changing anytime soon. I'm going to be 22 in a few days time... :banghead:

But life goes on. I'm still alive. :yy:

Are you attractive? Are you interesting? Do you know how to flirt properly?

It also helps to have helpful friends that clearly admire you and will big you up. I used to have one mate who was great, he would always introduce me to girls, and it would become immediately apparent that he had spent the previous half an hour telling them how awesome I was. You have to be a muppet to screw it up from there.

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lozasaurus99

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On holiday I had the best week!!!!! Everyday morning and night!! A guy I use to see - he was an investment banker was so stressed he would get escorts!

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Original post by datpiff

This thread is depressing. Here's to hoping the future will get better.

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Not to worry, people are developing slower nowadays; the social skills you would normally expect an 18 year old to possess 10 years ago, young people are only acquiring in their mid 20s now.

Todays generation of school leavers are terrifyingly naïve and immature. Most of them don't even have much experience going out to bars and clubs and pulling, which was unthinkable when I was a first year student. A lot of them can't cook (seriously, wtf), and often don't seem to have many social hobbies like team sports or playing in a band.

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arkhamz

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I'm 5 years old, what is this?

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Original post by cole-slaw

Are you attractive? Are you interesting? Do you know how to flirt properly?

I've been told I look like an average guy. Don't know. No.

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Original post by ChaoticButterfly

I've been told I look like an average guy. Don't know. No.

You can always improve your looks. Sort out your hair, sort out your complexion, shave properly, dress better, carry yourself better, smile more. Do some exercise, do some weights.

Well, do you have interesting stuff to say? Like, what hobbies do you have? If you have **** boring hobbies, get some better ones.

Practice. Plus watch how other more successful guys do it. (Do not ask PUA losers for advice, that's like asking a long-term unemployed person for CV writing tips.)

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Original post by cole-slaw

You can always improve your looks. Sort out your hair, sort out your complexion, shave properly, dress better, carry yourself better, smile more. Do some exercise, do some weights.

Well, do you have interesting stuff to say? Like, what hobbies do you have? If you have **** boring hobbies, get some better ones.

Practice. Plus watch how other more successful guys do it. (Do not ask PUA losers for advice, that's like asking a long-term unemployed person for CV writing tips.)

I don't know why I am doing this, feel like I am writing a job application :tongue:

But whatever...

I already do a lot of exercise anyway. Hobbies are cycling, rock climbing, general outdoors stuff. I like being outside in the hills/mountains. I like playing video games, reading about science, history, politics, sci-fi/fantasy. One probem I know I have is that I am not the most socially outgoing person so most likely come across as quite boring when I first meet people. Other than just practicing and forcing myself in these situations I can't really improve that, I don't think I will ever become uber confident in that regard. Takes a while for me to feel comfortable around people, hopefully by then I seem more interesting.

I see plenty of guys that are physically less fit than me who have girlfriends, and I have no interest in going to a gym. It's tedious/expensive and I'm not going to do it. My fashions sense normally consists of hoody + Jeans or outdoor clothing. I don't exactly have a load of money to spend on clothes right now either (unemployed).

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Original post by ChaoticButterfly

I don't know why I am doing this, feel like I am writing a job application :tongue:

But whatever...

I already do a lot of exercise anyway. Hobbies are cycling, rock climbing, general outdoors stuff. I like being outside in the hills/mountains. I like playing video games, reading about science, history, politics, sci-fi/fantasy. One probem I know I have is that I am not the most socially outgoing person so most likely come across as quite boring when I first meet people. Other than just practicing and forcing myself in these situations I can't really improve that, I don't think I will ever become uber confident in that regard. Takes a while for me to feel comfortable around people, hopefully by then I seem more interesting.

I see plenty of guys that are physically less fit than me who have girlfriends, and I have no interest in going to a gym. It's tedious/expensive and I'm not going to do it. My fashions sense normally consists of hoody + Jeans or outdoor clothing. I don't exactly have a load of money to spend on clothes right now either (unemployed).

Would being stronger not help with your rock climbing? I would have thought upper body strength was pretty essential.

I can't really give you tailored advice, you will have to ask someone who knows you well and is successful themselves. They may be able to give you some pointers.

None.

It's been 2 years since i've even kissed someone, never mind anything else!

I've reluctantly accepted that nothing will ever happen, to the extent that i've already planned names for my future cats. I'll be whatever the male version of a cat lady is.

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datpiff

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Original post by cole-slaw

Not to worry, people are developing slower nowadays; the social skills you would normally expect an 18 year old to possess 10 years ago, young people are only acquiring in their mid 20s now.

Todays generation of school leavers are terrifyingly naïve and immature. Most of them don't even have much experience going out to bars and clubs and pulling, which was unthinkable when I was a first year student. A lot of them can't cook (seriously, wtf), and often don't seem to have many social hobbies like team sports or playing in a band.

I'm 26 and only getting the hang of things now, though I'm a bit late and the club scene doesn't appeal to me anymore (never has anyway)! Would rather hang in bars. I have a second chance in university though seeing as I'm currently in the 1st year of my PhD (I'm lucky as I have my fees paid for), though a lot of Freshers are a bit young to me now!

I never had a father to teach and guide me on my journey into becoming a man (he was a dick), so I guess that's a factor too. In my early 20s I had zero confidence and I am only just building things up now.

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lozasaurus99

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Original post by datpiff

I'm 26 and only getting the hang of things now, though I'm a bit late and the club scene doesn't appeal to me anymore (never has anyway)! Would rather hang in bars. I have a second chance in university though seeing as I'm currently in the 1st year of my PhD (I'm lucky as I have my fees paid for), though a lot of Freshers are a bit young to me now!

I never had a father to teach and guide me on my journey into becoming a man (he was a dick), so I guess that's a factor too. In my early 20s I had zero confidence and I am only just building things up now.

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Awww. ..:/ I'm 18 I'll date you? ?..but, what is age when love is involved? :smile:

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