Like a girl that cheated on her ex. Likelihood of a major heartbreak for me?

In my own opinion, a leopard will not change its spots. However, that's because I've been cheated on & know that I can't take that person back even when they come asking for it because I know how much it hurt last time. You know how much it hurts. That being said it doesn't mean I'm right; trust your instinct. She might change, and you might be totally happy, or she might not. You need to ask yourself if you can trust her, and if you can't, can you build trust with her in order to have a healthy relationship? If you're not willing to do that, forget it.

She's cheated and is also happy to become involved with her sisters ex-boyfriend? (Assuming you're male)..

I would tread with great caution indeed...

This would actually be a deal-breaker for me.. I don't even get on that well with my sister, but there are boundaries and I would never ever even look at one if her ex-boyfriends, even now she's happily married!


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I think the combination of the fact that it is your ex's sister, and that she cheated before, which will mean you'll have paranoia whilst in the relationship makes this situation too complicated and not worth the effort.

She is fine with it that I'm her sister's ex. Not sure if her sister will care neither of us cares to be honest.

She cheated indeed but she claims she did it because she felt neglected and her ex had developed a preference for porn and masturbation which became an addiction.




Bad combination then?

Bad combination then?

The fact she is fine with it is the issue.

Cheaters ALWAYS try to justify their actions. Just because she was neglected by her boyfriend is no justification for her actions - she'd have more integrity if she's ended the relationship before jumping into bed with another man. I wouldn't touch her with a barge pole unless she accepted accountability for her actions. How can you be sure you're even getting the true story? She could very well be lying..


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I told you homeboy, sloots gonna sloot, always.
Just think, with her ex there was a time where he was where you are now. All giggles and butterflies with her, then BAM her natural sloot instict comes to the fore. Her immediate reaction is to push the blame on to someone else, in this case her ex, saying he neglected her. You know that's bs, don't fool yourself. She's a parasite, she's drained the last guy dry, and now its hooked itself on to you. Cast it in to the fire before its too late

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Honestly, if I was in your position I would stay as friends. You're going to be thinking about that every day and doing your best to try and please her. I know it is going to be hard for you since you have already developed feelings for her but I guess it is up to you.

We don't live in a perfect world. But follow your instincts..

Depends man. If you can have realistic expectations, she might be worth a relationship, but I tend to put everything in to it.

I trust her and know her well enough to know she wasn't telling a lie. Her ex has near 2TB of porn and I have no reason to distrust her about it.




Drained the last guy dry? Financially you mean?


I do believe if I stop it at this point in time it might just be impossible to remain as friends.



True everyone does make mistakes.

What would you be doing then in similar situation?



Thanks for the contribution and yeah I don't want to give it everything only to find I had wasted all the efforts.

How long before the relationship ended did she cheat? And did she dump him or he dump her? I would never start a relationship with someone who cheated on someone else for a few months (say) before being dumped. That sends all kinds of warning signals.

However, if she dumped him within a few days of a ONS, then I think she had probably already dumped him in her mind and was a bit delayed in pulling through. Basically, breaking up can be a process that takes a few weeks, even if you are already sure the relationship is over: you may ponder for some time about how to do it before pulling through, because it can be tough / unpleasant to do, even though the decision to do it has already been made. In those few weeks of pondering the how you may already consider yourself not in a relationship (because you've already made the decision to break up). Of course you should always make a clean slate before starting something new, but maybe the transition got a bit muddled in this case.

But yes, if this happened in her previous relationship, it could happen to you as well.

Her just being an ex's sister would already have me staying clear. And the cheating, well it's up to you if you trust her on that but that also rings alarm bells. Why did she not just break up with the guy instead of cheating on him?

However, you're already this emotionally involved with her, and it's easy for us to say don't get involved, just be friends.

Personally I've learnt that it can pay off following your heart and not your head, and that it's worth trying even if it fails because either you take the risk and end up in something amazing or it doesn't work out but you can say you tried and you won't live your life with the regret and thinking "what if?"

There's a point where you're too emotionally invested and whatever sensible and logical advice people give you will just go out the window, and you'll just be doing whatever your heart wants.

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Probably I would end up going with my heart rather than my head - I think most do. Of course the risk of getting hurt is real but nothing ventured nothing gained.

She's cheated and is also happy to become involved with her sisters ex-boyfriend? (Assuming you're male)..

I would tread with great caution indeed...

This would actually be a deal-breaker for me.. I don't even get on that well with my sister, but there are boundaries and I would never ever even look at one if her ex-boyfriends, even now she's happily married!


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