It would take me forever to write the full details of my relationship and our issues but I will try to keep it to a minimum...
Me and my boyfriend have a wide circle of friends at university (we all go to the same society) so we spend time with pretty much the same people.
Over the past couple of weeks me and one of his best friends have been getting closer, to the point where we've had really deep conversations. I'd consider this guy one of my best friends too. We also had conversations about relationships and we both admitted we had feelings for each other before me and my boyfriend got together. But we both said this had changed.
Over the weekend we were drinking and went out as a big group. When we got back, my friends helped put me to bed, and this guy stayed behind. It was just me and him. He began stroking my face and we had another deep conversation. He then told me that he still had feelings for me, had been trying to hide them for weeks and didn't know what to do, because he didn't want to come between me and my boyfriend. We talked some more and anyway we ended up kissing. Afterwards we just stared at each other and both put our head in our hands both feeling incredibly guilty. He held me as I cried as I told him some really personal stuff and he was so nice, telling me that what I'm thinking isn't true, how bad my boyfriend treats me, how I deserve so much better and someone who will respect me for who I am. When I think about it now it gives me tears in my eyes because what he said was exactly what I needed.
Anyway the next day I told my boyfriend what had happened, he has forgiven me but me and this guy have met up once more to discuss things and a way forward. We both admitted we still have feelings but we have decided to put them aside for the sake of our friendship.
However it is so difficult, I can't stop thinking about him. I see him almost every day, we are still best friends but I am constantly thinking what if and I just know he's thinking the same.
Any advice?