Good old MySpace...

good thing its the internet then its better then :hugs:

it puts my point across dont you think :smile:

Reply 41

Why

People are trying to make it not appear like a big deal but in actual fact it very much is. It's much much more likely it was deliberate and looking at ways how it could have gone wrong is like looking for a needle in a haystack in this case. It's not trivial at all.

The thing is this is a question of credibility and trust. The very foundations of a healthy relationship and I'm sorry to say that these are very clear indications he's not completely devoted to the relationship at any rate. Unless he has a very good excuse for why he did it I wouldnt let him get off so easy because what he did was just plain and simple wrong.

would you belive his excuses anyway?

Reply 42

Trigger

good thing its the internet then its better then :hugs:

it puts my point across dont you think :smile:

You didnt have a point to begin with.

Reply 43

Trigger

would you belive his excuses anyway?

Yes - This is a problem aswell. Since he's destroyed his credibility now trusting him will be ever harder but since the OP knows him best she'll be able to decide whether to believe him or not. There's not much of an excuse he can make for doing what he did so either it'll be very logical/simple or completely outrageous.

Reply 44

ffs yes i did. i dislike you so much its unreal if you look at my first post you will see what my point was

Reply 45

Reue

20

Arguing on the internet is like playing in the special olympics...

Reply 46

Why

Yes - This is a problem aswell. Since he's destroyed his credibility now trusting him will be ever harder but since the OP knows him best she'll be able to decide whether to believe him or not. There's not much of an excuse he can make for doing what he did so either it'll be very logical/simple or completely outrageous.

well im waiting for her to reply with this text message

Reply 47

You dislike me because I'm disagreeing with you. That's childish. You may have had a point but it was very unrealistic and opinionated.

Reply 48

Reue

Arguing on the internet is like playing in the special olympics...

yeah yeah i know

Reply 49

Why

You dislike me because I'm disagreeing with you. That's childish. You may have had a point but it was very unrealistic and opinionated.

i dislike you for other reasons sweet, and who are you to say my point was unrealistic. why is your point the only valid one?

Reply 50

Reue

Arguing on the internet is like playing in the special olympics...

It's not really arguing. It's a difference in opinion and some people are sidetracking it as 'trivial' when it's not. It's when people enforce their opinion on others (when it is very unrealistic and unlikely to begin with) when these so called 'arguments' break out.

Reply 51

Trigger

i dislike you for other reasons sweet, and who are you to say my point was unrealistic. why is your point the only valid one?

Possibly, but those reasons aren't very good either.. Also, My point is valid till now because my basis of argument was correct, and my statements have held throughout this little talk till now. Yours however havent.

Reply 52

no one point you have made turns out to be correct. the rest is speculation, as is my argument

Reply 53

wendizzle22

1

Don't worry, he probably never even messages these girls, and definitely will never meet them.

Reply 54

Sephiroth

You say he's spent time designing and filling in his profile, I think that shows that he hasn't just "forgot" to change his status to "in relationship". He would notice it, and that status is one of the most important aspects of MySpace. Most people on there who randomly add/message people are looking for a relationship so he will get people messaging him based on that if they think he's their type.

I have seen quite a few profiles that lie about their relationship status, it's a lot more common than you think. Some don't even change it after you ask them why they're misleading you, usually after they've spent weeks flirting with you and suddenly slip the words "my boyfriend" in a conversation. I have always assumed people do it because they are wanting a new relationship but they don't want to end their current one until a new one appears. My assumption might not always be true, but either way I wouldn't get involved with such a guy. I always look forward to changing my status to "in relationship" because it lets people know I'm taken and happy.

There is one semi valid reason he may have his status set to single. That's for people to talk to him, as a lot don't look at profiles or message people who are in a relationship. But still, if they message him thinking he's single they'll just stop talking when they find out the truth.

Now as for your situation at hand there are two ways to go about it. One is to message him from a "fake" account pretending to be someone else ans see how he reacts, but this can be dangerous, especially if you start enticing him to flirt with that profile. Or if he finds out you're trying to trick him, I know I wouldn't be happy. The other way to approach it is to tell him you found him on MySpace and query him about the relationship status and possibly the girls. That's what I would probably do.

You may find out how much he likes these girls by what type of comments he leaves them. People tend to put the people they talk to/like most as their top 4 so no need to "investigate" all of his "friends". :P

Reply 55

Sephiroth

wendizzle22

Don't worry, he probably never even messages these girls, and definitely will never meet them.

I would agree that he probably never messages many of them, but people don't use MySpace and talk to no one at all. Even so there's nothing wrong with the above. I would still talk and meet people from MySpace if I was in a relationship. People use the site to make friends too.

Reply 56

Anonymous #3

I disagree with "trigger"... her views seem like trigger's views from only fools and horses lol

If your bf was doing this in "real life" ... telling girls he is single, would that bother you? End of the day everyone is different and if that happened to me i would speak to my gf about it as his profile doesn't show much committment.

Reply 57

Anonymous

I disagree with "trigger"... her views seem like trigger's views from only fools and horses lol

If your bf was doing this in "real life" ... telling girls he is single, would that bother you? End of the day everyone is different and if that happened to me i would speak to my gf about it as his profile doesn't show much committment.

grow up. Your posting in anon :rolleyes:

Reply 58

Zerforax

21

Meh since we're all taking sides ¬_¬
I agree with Trigger and still think it half falls under the porno argument/discussion...
At the end of the day its the OP's decision, does it bother her? if so, take action...
if its so minor, maybe an indirect move, by adding his myspace, end of...
no need to get all heated up :p:

Reply 59