Might fail master&#x27;s, should I drop out?

OP

I just really confused and need help :frown:

I am so scared to leave because I don't want to feel like a 'failure', on the other hand, this degree is worthless to me (content wise) and I feel like I want to go home and rest and just get on with life.

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HI! I think it might be a good idea to talk to your tutors about all of these things. They're usually out to help you, and can dispense invaluable advice.

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Sorry I couldn't help more! I put my masters on hold for two years through negotiation, so remember there is always room for flexibility, but your health should be number one!

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Nathanielle

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You should talk to your tutors for advice, also in terms of grades and possible outcome. And honestly, you already sound like you have made the decision.

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OP

Original post by STARRS

Sorry I couldn't help more! I put my masters on hold for two years through negotiation, so remember there is always room for flexibility, but your health should be number one!

I was already away for two terms, I doubt they'd want to help me out now. And I feel like they think I am a pain anyway :frown:

I have no idea what to do :frown:

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I'm sure they have come across this kind of thing before! If talking to your tutors is not an option, is there any one else you can talk it through with? Perhaps a wellbeing monitor? These kind of things are awful! But go with your gut feel.

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OP

Original post by STARRS

I'm sure they have come across this kind of thing before! If talking to your tutors is not an option, is there any one else you can talk it through with? Perhaps a wellbeing monitor? These kind of things are awful! But go with your gut feel.

I am going to see a senior tutor today and my GP, because I feel like I need to get away from here. I feel so much better away from here, but I am so embarassed to be an issue because I have always been very academic and it is so hard to come to terms with this 'new' me. And this makes the situation so much worse.

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Air_wolf

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First of all calm down, you already have a back up plan, and plan A doesnt always work so dont worry about that. Secondly, even if you have been away for 2 terms are your tutors aware of the situation? Do not assume people do not wish to help because you think they wont like you. Go and speak to your tutors, if they decline to help, (which i very much doubt, you dont just jump into a teaching profession for no reason other than wanting to help people) than nothing has changed you can explore other options, if they do help then that is 1 problem dealt with.
Accademically if you quit this masters course but it has no affect on what you wish to study or do in the future then do not worry so much about it. You are not a failure because you have a research internship and you are looking to other courses that are more connected to what you wish to do.
Take it 1 step at a time, like starrs said, your health is number 1 priority.

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OP

Original post by Air_wolf

First of all calm down, you already have a back up plan, and plan A doesnt always work so dont worry about that. Secondly, even if you have been away for 2 terms are your tutors aware of the situation? Do not assume people do not wish to help because you think they wont like you. Go and speak to your tutors, if they decline to help, (which i very much doubt, you dont just jump into a teaching profession for no reason other than wanting to help people) than nothing has changed you can explore other options, if they do help then that is 1 problem dealt with.
Accademically if you quit this masters course but it has no affect on what you wish to study or do in the future then do not worry so much about it. You are not a failure because you have a research internship and you are looking to other courses that are more connected to what you wish to do.
Take it 1 step at a time, like starrs said, your health is number 1 priority.

Thank you so much, this did calm me down because I had been panicking and worrying about how I had ruined everything for myself, etc. I am going to speak to my tutors and try and see what can be done.

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Original post by Anonymous

I am going to see a senior tutor today and my GP, because I feel like I need to get away from here. I feel so much better away from here, but I am so embarassed to be an issue because I have always been very academic and it is so hard to come to terms with this 'new' me. And this makes the situation so much worse.

I hope that it went well today with the tutor, it often helps to talk things through, and remember whatever decision you make, you will have made from your own personal viewpoint, for very good reasons. Good luck!

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OP

Original post by STARRS

I hope that it went well today with the tutor, it often helps to talk things through, and remember whatever decision you make, you will have made from your own personal viewpoint, for very good reasons. Good luck!

They were helpful but they said they couldn't guarantee anything, which has stressed me out so much and it worsens my MS symptoms dramatically. I can't relax and feel so anxious and keep crying because I feel like I've messed everything up and ruined everything.

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OP

I know I want to work in a different field and would love to pursue a master's in that area in a year's time. I don't know why I have put in all my self worth into this, the whole thing is ruining my health.

Reply 13

Well done for going to see your tutor, even if he wasn't 100% helpful. Is it possible for you to see someone in Student Support/welfare in the SU? There should be support in place for you. I hope things are getting sorted out for you, making positive steps forward should make things feel a bit better too, whatever you decide to do. Seeing the right people will get you going in the right direction, even if you did decide to take a different path to get to a place that is more 'you'. :smile:

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OP

Original post by STARRS

Well done for going to see your tutor, even if he wasn't 100% helpful. Is it possible for you to see someone in Student Support/welfare in the SU? There should be support in place for you. I hope things are getting sorted out for you, making positive steps forward should make things feel a bit better too, whatever you decide to do. Seeing the right people will get you going in the right direction, even if you did decide to take a different path to get to a place that is more 'you'. :smile:

Thank you

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OP

I have decided to leave but not sure whether to put my degree on hold. The reason I am finding it so hard to give it up is that it's C (not typing the university name because i dont want it to come up in google search, but it's the top university in this country at the moment). And I was awarded a prestigious scholarship to attend this place. And it's making me so miserable to have to give this up; on the other hand, the amount of stress this degree has provided me is just crazy. And a part of me wants to leave this behind.

Also how would I show this on my CV? I dont want a two year gap.

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Chocolatesoup

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Original post by Anonymous

I have decided to leave but not sure whether to put my degree on hold. The reason I am finding it so hard to give it up is that it's C (not typing the university name because i dont want it to come up in google search, but it's the top university in this country at the moment). And I was awarded a prestigious scholarship to attend this place. And it's making me so miserable to have to give this up; on the other hand, the amount of stress this degree has provided me is just crazy. And a part of me wants to leave this behind.

Also how would I show this on my CV? I dont want a two year gap.

It is difficult giving something up and quitting, however it sounds like you have maybe put a lot of pressure on yourself. Also with your health problems, this may have added to how you are feeling.

I think you should make a list of pros and cons and it may help you realise what's the best decision (although you might have already decided you want to leave, seeing that there are more reasons to leave which will positively impact your life atm might help put your decision into perspective).

Quitting is hard, but you have reasons, you are not simply throwing in the towel because you can't be arsed. You have to make tough choices that are right for you.

Plus you already have a degree, you have achieved a lot so far so it's not like you have nothing?

And who cares about your cv, I dropped out of uni when I was 17/18 and I wouldn't put that on mines. We all make choices which are right for us. You shouldn't have regrets because at the time it was the best option for you.

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