Really lonely after finishing uni

I'd unfollow people for now or stop using social media so much in your situation, it's not helping your mood.
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A part time job sounds like a very good way of meeting new people. And seriously don't worry you are not running out of time!! I think around the 23-25 years old time is when lots of people have a quarter life crisis (i know, i'm guilty of it too!). But I know deep down I do have my whole life ahead of me, and so do you. I don't know which 24 year olds you know, but the majority of the ones I know are still in house shares and not settled down with a morgage. In any case, being settled down with a morgage isn't necessarily the best thing in the world either!

Yeh i've uninstalled Snapchat and Facebook from my phone. Would deactivate it but I need to keep the Messenger app for emergencies.



My part time job whilst I was at uni was great, got along with everyone and had loads of friends. It's completely different where I am now unfortunately, came back on Monday and nobody asked how my holiday was or anything.

Whilst deep down i'd love a relationship i've accepted it'll never happen. There's far too much wrong with me and to be honest, in my current state of mind i'm not sure if its the best thing for me. I know if I met someone i'd get super clingy, plus when I think of most girls I know they just hang around with the guys friends which I won't be able to offer.

I finished my degree last year, however a lot of my friends were doing Masters/4th years so uni life carried on for another year. Now everyone has moved on and i'm completely alone. I have my own flat and it's just so lonely.

Nobody from uni has bothered to keep in touch aside from my best friend, who i've been talking to pretty much 24/7 because she's the only thing that cheers me up and she's really struggling too. I hate being this clingy and dependent on her. I went on holiday with her and her boyfriend and when I left I couldn't stop crying for like 4 days afterwards cos I was so upset about having to go home.

She doesn't really have any friends where she lives either but at least she has her partner to be with constantly, i'd give anything to have someone like that in my life but that's never going to happen. It really sucks seeing everyone I know all loved up whilst i'll end up starring in a sequel to the 40 year old virgin.

I have a good job in the Financial sector which pays well but there isn't really any scope for making friends there and outside of that I don't do anything. I'm on annual leave at the moment and haven't spoken to or seen another person since I got back from holiday... 10 days ago! I've been so upset i've just lost motivation to even do basic things like shower, shave or eat regularly.

All I want is just to meet a few more people but I just can't see how anything will ever change. I know that there are a lot of graduates in a worse position than me but i'm struggling to find anything to be positive about at the moment...

I finished my degree last year, however a lot of my friends were doing Masters/4th years so uni life carried on for another year. Now everyone has moved on and i'm completely alone. I have my own flat and it's just so lonely.

Nobody from uni has bothered to keep in touch aside from my best friend, who i've been talking to pretty much 24/7 because she's the only thing that cheers me up and she's really struggling too. I hate being this clingy and dependent on her. I went on holiday with her and her boyfriend and when I left I couldn't stop crying for like 4 days afterwards cos I was so upset about having to go home.

She doesn't really have any friends where she lives either but at least she has her partner to be with constantly, i'd give anything to have someone like that in my life but that's never going to happen. It really sucks seeing everyone I know all loved up whilst i'll end up starring in a sequel to the 40 year old virgin.

I have a good job in the Financial sector which pays well but there isn't really any scope for making friends there and outside of that I don't do anything. I'm on annual leave at the moment and haven't spoken to or seen another person since I got back from holiday... 10 days ago! I've been so upset i've just lost motivation to even do basic things like shower, shave or eat regularly.

All I want is just to meet a few more people but I just can't see how anything will ever change. I know that there are a lot of graduates in a worse position than me but i'm struggling to find anything to be positive about at the moment...

Yeh i've uninstalled Snapchat and Facebook from my phone. Would deactivate it but I need to keep the Messenger app for emergencies.

My part time job whilst I was at uni was great, got along with everyone and had loads of friends. It's completely different where I am now unfortunately, came back on Monday and nobody asked how my holiday was or anything.

Whilst deep down i'd love a relationship i've accepted it'll never happen. There's far too much wrong with me and to be honest, in my current state of mind i'm not sure if its the best thing for me. I know if I met someone i'd get super clingy, plus when I think of most girls I know they just hang around with the guys friends which I won't be able to offer.

You shouldn't be so harsh on yourself. You can't just accept something will never happen when you really don't know. You're still young, anything can happen. I'm also guessing you're being hard on yourself by saying there's too much wrong with you, when in reality there probably isn't.
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Even the 1 friend I thought I had just doesn't seem to care anymore. I'm always a stop gap until someone better comes along.



I honestly can't think of a single positive thing I have to offer anyone, which probably explains why every friend i've ever had always ends up cutting me out of their life and nobody else is really interested. Started with a big group of fellow grads at work, tried my best to make friends but now they all get along well whilst i'm just the weird guy who eats lunch alone and cries at his desk.

Thing is they've been the only person who I can properly talk to and rely on for years, if I lost them i'd just fall apart completely.

Hey. Sorry to hear that Have you ever heard of meetup.com? There are a couple of similar ones around too i believe. It's a great way to meet people that have the same interests as you. I've used it to find sport/exercise groups - we meet up informally and play netball or whatever, but there's soooo much on there, definitely not all sporty. Equally if you can't find anything that suits you, you can always start a group. Might be a good start?

sr do you not play football? Join a team man, you have a serious hobby can't you go to matches or anything? £2 ticket down the local non league team if you can't afford PL.

Feel free to PM any time anyway mate.

I miss going to games so much, only reason I don't anymore is that the people I went with emigrated and its £90 return on the train I do go to a lot of random games but it's not the same

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Why do you keep ignoring all of the helpful advice.

If you play football, join a football team, you will soon have friends. Once you have friends, you will have people to go out with and finding a girlfriend will be easier.

If you are deliberately ignoring this sound advice, I can only conclude that you don't actually want friends and a girlfriend after all.

Which makes me question why you started this thread.

Who says i'm ignoring it?