I go to a state grammar. (Tautology, perhaps?) Anywho, the way I see the rah thing is as follows:
My parents have NO meaningful background in higher education. That's mostly their fault, but to an extent working class people were conditioned to feel that education wasn't their vocation beyond the compulsory, hence room for debate on both sides of the coin there.
My parents have worked incredibly hard and are now pretty well off, but back when I started secondary school a private education was way out of their price range. I know you have to be good to go private, but the costs do stop MANY who are good enough from going that way, which therefore means private education, on the whole, is determined by income.
There's some really well-engrained misunderstanding and prejudice at both extremes of the spectrum: rahs are seen by some of my peers as David Camerons, who is sooo plastic he makes me sick. On the other hand rahs tend to see people like my peers, in part at least, as plebs. The Great Unwashed does still exist, but it is not the lower-middle or working class, it is the underclass.
I admit there are chips on shoulders. Dare I venture that that be the case on both sides? (That's the present subjunctive, and it makes sense here in case it reads oddly). Some of my peers are jealous of rahs' standard of living and that crazy confidence they have in themselves. To some extent it's intimidating, it must be said, and that then creates an unwillingness to understand said rahs and is then viewed by, again, said rahs as ignorance similar to that of the historical stereotype of the Great Unwashed, as already mentioned. I will add at this point in my mini-essay that no one will end up reading anyway that what really ticks off 'normal' people about rahs is that they act as they do deliberately. They set themselves apart and due to the size of their minority (over the magic 10% limit) they are recognised as a threat, as far as behavioural psychology is concerned anywho.
The conclusion to be drawn from this is that this all stems from a lack of understanding. If rahs made themselves more like 'normal' people, there wouldn't be so much of a problem. If you're different to the rest, and you revel in your differences, you make yourself a target to their resentment and this same rules applies to this debate.