My girlfriend has a close guy friend, and i don't really like it.

- (and yes, I realised I'd missed a word out) If he was really doing something, would he say he was going to meet up with a female friend? I sure as hell wouldn't tell my boyfriend I was meeting up with a male friend if I was actually planning on cheating on him.

If I was that concerned, I would talk to him, instead of just coming on here and *****ing about him.

Meh there's weirder things to happen...
At any rate what would you say if your Mrs told you not to be friends with someone you were very close to on grounds, that to them atleast, might come across as somewhat questionable?

I sure as hell wouldn't tell my boyfriend I was meeting up with a male friend if I was actually planning on cheating on him.

I wouldn't be too impressed if you told me to do this. Shows how little you trust me.

Being close friends is very different from being close friends with someone after you wanted **** each other/had previous sexual history.

she wouldn't even be my Mrs in the first place if she had a guy she used to f#k as a "best friend". Don't have time for that basic ****!

Then be prepared to get dumped.

Fine. Wouldn't want to be with someone who can't trust me.

trust is an illogical concept, why should you let go of the scientific method, ie dealing in proof, in dealing with beings as immoral, unethical and imperfect as humans? there have been studies that show people on average lie several dozen times a day, it is illogical to leave someone to their devices in a situation where what you want not to occur is quite easily exacted? its all very illogical.

ignoring what i've already said for a bit let us examine another view point, if a girl cant give up a random guy shes only known for a year and that you clearly have a problem with, then she does not value you enough for it to be a lasting and strong relationship anyways. if i were to be in a relationship i would be in one with someone for whom i would be ready to give up my life for let alone a random person id only known for a year that has no blood relation to me. i guess you havent known her for long enough that the relationship could be at a point where you are ready to make sacrifices for the other person but even at an early stage this is not much of a sacrifice, perhaps she could start talking to him less and not meet him in solitude rather than cut him off completely for now, if its the case that she is not that willing to sacrifice much yet

Some guy she used to have a thing with is buzzing around and she won't give him up.

i know, and she's got no excuse for it either, i mean it's not like she's rick astley.......

"never gonna give you up............."

It sounds like I'm some sort of autist, but this is literally how I see it. You don't ''just trust'' other people, you look at the facts and make a decision. Some guy she used to have a thing with is buzzing around and she won't give him up.

Fine. Wouldn't want to be with someone who can't trust me.

I wouldn't be too impressed if you told me to do this. Shows how little you trust me.

My girlfriend of 4 months has a really close guy friend (almost best friend) who she has known a lot longer than me. She has opened up that they did once like each other more than friends, and that he was going to come down so they can "hook up" and stuff (He lives about 1 hour away). But ever since I've came into her life she says that she has no feelings towards him anymore, but i doubt that is true. She always talks to him online ect.. and i just don't like the thought of it? What can i do? I can't just say to stop talking to him since she has known him for around a year.

It’s as simple as, this is something you’re going to have to get over.

I would instantly ditch my boyfriend if he didn’t like my male friends, because it meant that he didn’t trust me to be faithful to him. And it’s not reasonable of you to ask you to not talk to her friends, because that instantly makes you controlling.

I understand why you might be a bit uncomfortable, but you’re gonna have to ask yourself if you trust her or not.

yo i wrote that and im not autistic (never thought i would have to say that lmao) i just like to believe im highly experienced and logical, not to sound boastful

people just have no respect in relationships anymore, if anything i believe extremist feminism is to blame. it is insecurity that leads to someone thinking if they do something for the sake of someone else they are somehow below them. extremist feminists will never listen to anything a guy asks them to do because theyre just that egotistical and insecure. for example if you tell your partner you like her in longer hair and she should try to grow it out you might be met with cries of "its my life its my choice how i make my hair." or the classic "i dont make my hair for you, its for myself. I will do what i like." i mean perhaps im too much of a romantic but that is where beauty lies in a relationship, trying to make the other person happier

I wouldnt mind giving up hanging out with other girls for someone special whom i wish to spend the rest of my life with. i mean if they mean that little to you that you cant do that for them then the relationship is too weak to last and have meaning