I dropped out of uni and now i feel worse than ever.

I feel like i regret my decision of leaving university and i'm feeling so lost and hopeless. I keep contradicting myself because whenever i was in my dorm room all i wanted to do was come home but now i'm home i just want to be back at uni. I've completely lost who i am and i'm no longer the happy, bubbly person i once was, my flatmates never saw the true me. I just want to turn back time and wish i never made the decision to go to university but i felt so pressurised to go because everyone was so proud of me and yes at that time i was proud of myself and seemed to go with the flow of absolutely everything and i thought uni was what i wanted however when i look back now i chose to go to college instead of doing sixth form because i couldn't handle the pressure. I had a few friends from home that went to the same uni and was in the same accommodation complex, i even had my best friend on the same course as me so it's not as if i had no one and had to start from scratch. My happiness started deteriorating instantly from the day i moved in and i feel like i should've got out there sooner than i did but i really thought it was just homesickness and i would get over it, i lasted 11 weeks. All my friendships seem to be breaking apart because i'm stuck in a loop hole i can't get out of. I thought coming home would lift my mood but i'm still in the same habits where i just sleep all the time and lock myself away because i hate what i've become. Ugh just don't know what i'm doing with myself, i was so happy with what i had before and now i feel like my life has been ripped away from me, i hate myself.

I feel like i regret my decision of leaving university and i'm feeling so lost and hopeless. I keep contradicting myself because whenever i was in my dorm room all i wanted to do was come home but now i'm home i just want to be back at uni. I've completely lost who i am and i'm no longer the happy, bubbly person i once was, my flatmates never saw the true me. I just want to turn back time and wish i never made the decision to go to university but i felt so pressurised to go because everyone was so proud of me and yes at that time i was proud of myself and seemed to go with the flow of absolutely everything and i thought uni was what i wanted however when i look back now i chose to go to college instead of doing sixth form because i couldn't handle the pressure. I had a few friends from home that went to the same uni and was in the same accommodation complex, i even had my best friend on the same course as me so it's not as if i had no one and had to start from scratch. My happiness started deteriorating instantly from the day i moved in and i feel like i should've got out there sooner than i did but i really thought it was just homesickness and i would get over it, i lasted 11 weeks. All my friendships seem to be breaking apart because i'm stuck in a loop hole i can't get out of. I thought coming home would lift my mood but i'm still in the same habits where i just sleep all the time and lock myself away because i hate what i've become. Ugh just don't know what i'm doing with myself, i was so happy with what i had before and now i feel like my life has been ripped away from me, i hate myself.

I feel like i regret my decision of leaving university and i'm feeling so lost and hopeless. I keep contradicting myself because whenever i was in my dorm room all i wanted to do was come home but now i'm home i just want to be back at uni. I've completely lost who i am and i'm no longer the happy, bubbly person i once was, my flatmates never saw the true me. I just want to turn back time and wish i never made the decision to go to university but i felt so pressurised to go because everyone was so proud of me and yes at that time i was proud of myself and seemed to go with the flow of absolutely everything and i thought uni was what i wanted however when i look back now i chose to go to college instead of doing sixth form because i couldn't handle the pressure. I had a few friends from home that went to the same uni and was in the same accommodation complex, i even had my best friend on the same course as me so it's not as if i had no one and had to start from scratch. My happiness started deteriorating instantly from the day i moved in and i feel like i should've got out there sooner than i did but i really thought it was just homesickness and i would get over it, i lasted 11 weeks. All my friendships seem to be breaking apart because i'm stuck in a loop hole i can't get out of. I thought coming home would lift my mood but i'm still in the same habits where i just sleep all the time and lock myself away because i hate what i've become. Ugh just don't know what i'm doing with myself, i was so happy with what i had before and now i feel like my life has been ripped away from me, i hate myself.

Hey, I'm sorry you feel this way but i can assure you you're probably not the only one that feels this lost. I dropped out of uni, except i was still living at home, and felt super lost too but realised i can either sit around and feel sorry for myself for feeling this way or get up and use the rest of they year i have before i go back to do something. i advise you to try looking for a job or something to do to get our mind off it all. You might feel as though your missing out or that you'll be behind all your friends but tbh thats not the case. just use this time to work on yourself instead of dwelling on the decision you made, you can always go back to uni no matter how old you are, you have lots of time trust me. Hope this helps and just know your life isnt ripped away from you because you made a decision that will probably benefit you in the long run. ; )

Hey. Don’t ever make a decision because someone else would want you to. A lot of the time, even when it may not seem like it, most people in university are confused anyways. If you regret your decision maybe speak to the university and see what your options are? You’re running your own race there’s more than enough time to figure it out. I hope you’re okay. Try & speak to someone if you can, it may help. Do things you enjoy, have a little fun, clear your head and start again if you need to. True friendships go through ups and downs sometimes, don’t worry about losing them x

I think the start of all my problems was moving out of home when I knew I wasn’t ready and I wasn’t too sure on the course and I wish I had the advice my friend told me where one of her family members said to her don’t go to university unless you’re really set on the course. I realised the course is never what I wanted to do but now I’m pretty much scarred from it. I do have a job but I’m in the process of trying to sort it out but that’s stressing me out too, I’ve seemed to just crumble and I’m not able to do anything. I’m really hoping i can start feeling better because I know this isn’t me I just get really scared to go outside my house because so many people knew I went off to uni and I seemed so excited for it, I get so anxious when someone asks me how is uni going, trying to stay strong

yeah i wish someone had told me the same before i'd started the course that i'd dropped out from. I had similar experience, i hated seeing ppl that went to the same college as me when i was out because they'd always ask what i was doing and why i wasnt at uni and i would just get really anxious and then dwell on the idea of who theyre going to tell that i left too. But after a while you'll get over it and realise its not their choice its your so who really cares what they think. just gotta focus on yourself and do you

I literally feel like my life stopped September 14th, haven’t really enjoyed anything since then, I found myself literally getting myself drunk to find some sort of enjoyment, wish the course was right cause everything else was perfect but I couldn’t stay for the social life, just want to get over this but i know it takes time. Just kind of frustrated with myself because I feel like 16 year old me was wiser than the 18 year old me, I said I wouldn’t go to uni because I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it and then I guess my tutor gave me so much hope which led me to the idea of uni but I wasn’t really told at what it was really like, I think I forgot that I had to move out and try and do absolutely everything myself and it just broke me because it all happened at once

Hey, I know this post is 4 years old but I’m going through a similar thing and wondered if you managed to sort everything out and doing okay now

Hey! Not a problem! Good to see a reply to this status as I logged in a week ago on a whim after about 3 years! I’m great now. Life worked out. I came back home and must admit I did have a horrible few months but I pushed myself to work and managed to work through it. Started and finished an apprenticeship and do full time work now. I slowly started finding happiness in things and I just went with the flow, things got better. Not sure what your position is, if you have left uni or stayed?

Hey! Not a problem! Good to see a reply to this status as I logged in a week ago on a whim after about 3 years! I’m great now. Life worked out. I came back home and must admit I did have a horrible few months but I pushed myself to work and managed to work through it. Started and finished an apprenticeship and do full time work now. I slowly started finding happiness in things and I just went with the flow, things got better. Not sure what your position is, if you have left uni or stayed?

That is great to hear, it’s all very daunting not knowing about the future. I dropped out of uni 8 months ago and going through an on and off rough patch

It is so scary and the worst thing is thinking about what you could’ve had (which I did for months myself) but i slowly got over the what ifs and started fresh.

For sure, I’m still thinking like that sometimes but gradually I’m realising if i think like that about it I’ll never move on in life.

This probably sounds silly but did you manage to make friends on an apprenticeship? Just missing uni friends

Ahh I’m so sorry, I forgot to reply to this!

I’m glad you’re realising because that’s the start of things being a lot clearer.

I must admit the apprenticeship I did there were a lot of older people, it depends what you do/where you go. Do you have any friends that stayed home and didn’t go to uni?

No worries!

All of my friends from school went to uni and only one is an hour away- so my social life kinda sucks rn. Was hoping theres chance to make more friends during an apprenticeship