When you find out that someone who used to bully you is achieving a lot

Has anyone experienced this, hope did you deal with it in terms of thoughts etc

Avoid thinking about it ir looking at stimuli related to it, there’s no benefit to hoping for someones downfall or crying about the opposite

Just don't give a **** about them. Never wish to see someone's downfall. It's not ethically right. If someone does wrong to you, they'll definitely have a collapse down the road even though they're progressing quite well now. But they'll receive punishment for their deeds at some point in life.

So I just need to wait longer, this is more promising although if they keep going at this rate they will become a world champ athlete.

Still I’l wait

Some people bully others when they're immature. After a certain time, they realise it and they move on or try to seek forgiveness. I think if they do that, they could be forgiven depending on the kind of bullying.

You're saying something right now coz you're not looking at the whole picture. When you've the don't care attitude, it won't bother you much.

i can kinda relate to this. i wouldnt consider myself a bully but 6 years ago i was a really immature person. i may have said things blindly without knowing it would hurt people.i look back on that alot and i wish sometimes i could just find every person that might have maybe been hurt by my words and ask for forgivness.but i think because i was once the loud rebellious kid i didnt think before i said anything however people did say alot to me thinking i woudlnt be hurt but the truth is those words honestly scarred me and caused me to mature much faster than my whole year group. i just wanted to write this to tell all of u that, yes it sucks seeing ur bully in a better place than u however sometimes u dont know how much they regret what they did deep down and also may have suffered

But in all my storybooks as a kid it was the nasty person who lost out in the end and the person who they treated badly became a happy hero.

I would like to know why this hasn’t occured !

So I just need to wait longer, this is more promising although if they keep going at this rate they will become a world champ athlete.

Still I’l wait

^ Bloody hell...

The storybooks were created as fiction by authors who were bowing down to the social conditioning that children should be encouraged to be good little boys and girls. Because of an environment where the Overton Window is one where the masses should be good obediant people and obey the rulers. It's an Overton Window that's been there throughout recorded history.

On the one hand this Overton Window is a good thing, because it helps to reduce criminality and therefore helps to reduce the chances of you being a victim of crime.
On the other hand it's one that maintains the status quo and indoctrinates people to be obediant and may put people in self imposed glass bubbles.

The reality is that bad people do prosper. Crime does pay, if it's the right sort of crime and the criminal is clever enough about it.

You were fed a huge con when you were a child in those storybooks.
A con equivalent to Santa Claus. The tooth fairy. Jesus was born on December 25th. Etc etc etc.

And about 1 in 50 to 1 in 100 people are psychopaths. Not all psychopaths are bullies. But they do tend to bully when they're in a siutation where bullying is a means on their path to get a goal that they have for themselves.
A high proportion of American Presidents since the Second World War have been psychopaths.
Psychopaths tend to be "successful" at their endeavours becuase they are so single minded about achieving their goals. And they tend to not focus on fear and sefl doubt. They tend to come over as confident and charismatic.
This is something that we as empaths can learn from and we would get more success in life if - in the most appropriate situations - we thought and behaved more like psychopaths. Although we will never be psychopaths, because we're wired differently inside.

And then you get the school bullies that aren't psychopaths. A proportion of these will grow up and be unsuccessful. Some of them will be "successful". That's simply the statistics of the situation.

Instead of feeling bitter about the success of your bully, how about focusing on what you can learn from his or her success?
Wise people don't tend to compare themselves to others. They compare themselves to their former self.



Don't wait! Your time is NOW!
Don't have the mindset that "your life will be better when". Have the mindset that you have arrived now. That your life is fantastic today.

Has anyone experienced this, hope did you deal with it in terms of thoughts etc