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Try and do something fun/non-degree-related every day. That could be something as simple as going for a walk around your college!
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Make sure you get fresh air and a change of environment every day – don’t be in your room the whole time!
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Be honest with people – peers and staff alike – about how you are feeling and finding things. Don’t suffer in silence for ages like I did!
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Make use of college welfare staff and the Counselling Service but equally if you find you’re not getting on with someone for whatever reason, you’re within your rights to stop seeing them and to ask to see someone else
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Try and remember that your tutors/DoS picked YOU – and they rarely get it wrong. You deserve to be there, even if you don’t feel like it. Equally though, there’s no shame in not wanting to be there, or wanting to move somewhere else. Do whatever’s in the best interests of your health and happiness – those are the most important things, at the end of the day
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When looking back, do you single out the pathetic behaviour of that bully as the 'only' trigger? or was it the "Final straw' of many other stress factors build up to that point?
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How do you consider the bully's approach as ; a general bad guy can find in any Uni/society?, race related? (racist/bigot) or class related ?
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When this started, did you share the situation and opened yourself up to any Oxford mates? non-Oxford mates? and your family? if so what was their support?
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Was there anything you could have done to stop it before spiralling?
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Did you see this kind of things happening mainly to minority or this is common among all groups?
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