Girls, how can a guy compensate for an average face?

Also, may it counterbalance physical flaws such as hair loss or any other flaw?

I'm 20, 6'3 and i've been a swimmer for 10 years. Now, i only go to the gym to improve my body.

I've got lots of girl friends but generally i don't see myself as an handsome guy girls would date.

Reply 1

notstudyingatall

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Personality over looks bro. Character over looks. Even if you look average, as long as you have a personality, keep conversation flowing, keep her happy, then girls will like you.

Reply 2

oceanzhu0912

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Original post by Luke_s.23

Also, may it counterbalance physical flaws such as hair loss or any other flaw?

I'm 20, 6'3 and i've been a swimmer for 10 years. Now, i only go to the gym to improve my body.

I've got lots of girl friends but generally i don't see myself as an handsome guy girls would date.

What parts do you think are not handsome about yourself?

Reply 3

Luke_s.23

OP

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Original post by oceanzhu0912

What parts do you think are not handsome about yourself?

that’s a good question.

Starting from what i like about myself: my height, my eyes (green) and my smile.

I’m not really satisfied with my physique. I usually get compliments from people (“you’re going to be our bodyguard” and jokes like that), but i really want to get that kind of physique i’m good with and wouldn’t trade with anybody ever.

the mention of hair loss in my post isn’t casual: i’ve been losing lots of hair since i was 16. I’ll look for a second job during the year in order to pay an appointment with a specialist and take medicines for hair loss. That’s probably the major thing that’s destroying my self esteem.

Also my stutter is something i hate. Most of the times, i can mask it quite well… but at first approach i often stutter or take a bit to say certain words. I know i can be quite talkative with people i’ve already talked to at least once before.

That’s it :smile:

Reply 4

oceanzhu0912

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Original post by Luke_s.23

that’s a good question.

Starting from what i like about myself: my height, my eyes (green) and my smile.

I’m not really satisfied with my physique. I usually get compliments from people (“you’re going to be our bodyguard” and jokes like that), but i really want to get that kind of physique i’m good with and wouldn’t trade with anybody ever.

the mention of hair loss in my post isn’t casual: i’ve been losing lots of hair since i was 16. I’ll look for a second job during the year in order to pay an appointment with a specialist and take medicines for hair loss. That’s probably the major thing that’s destroying my self esteem.

Also my stutter is something i hate. Most of the times, i can mask it quite well… but at first approach i often stutter or take a bit to say certain words. I know i can be quite talkative with people i’ve already talked to at least once before.

That’s it :smile:

Sounds like you're a really nice guy with a good personality!

Physique can be changed/improved- the key to this is just being consistent, just if you're doing a bit everyday. With the hair loss thing, that's a good move- finding a specialist to help with the problem is a good way. Maybe does it have something to do with diet or stress?
I've been having lots of hair fall since I was at uni and it's still happening, but I try not to think too much about it. I guess it's about stress and anxiety (in my case anyways)

And finally the stuttering issue, well I've got a stutter as well and it can be pretty bad sometimes especially when I'm anxious and I'm overthinking. I've found a trick that might help- for example if you know there is a certain sound that you will stutter on, just take a pause and then say it. Like for example, I struggle with c,k,b and p words so I would pause a bit just before I say the word starting with those sounds. I try things like practice reading out loud for a certain time everyday and that sort of helps my build confidence but those moments where I get really anxious or there is an anticipation, my stutter comes out which isn't the best...
But you know, I think if there is someone who you find that really likes you, they will accept your faults and look past it cause that's what love it, isn't it? Like you wouldn't just like someone for their appearance when they have a horrible personality, I mean you can, but overtime this wear off, and similarly if someone really likes you, they will look past that you stutter sometimes cause maybe you have a great personality, you are kind, you are always there for them, so aren't those things so much more important?

Reply 5

Zarek

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Some ideas. Buy nice clothes, style your hair well, work on your repartee, learn to play the guitar, buy a great car, cosmetic dentistry, enter a top paying profession