Is it bad that I haven't been properly introduced to my boyfriend's friends?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and we met last year in y12, at college. I have my friend group and he has his, but he previously knew two people in our shared friend group (my group, but he gets along really well with everyone).

It's probably silly to expect to be introduced but sometimes I sit with my boyfriend and his friend group during free periods and I don't know any names, I don't know anything about them so I really don't know how to talk to them/if i can/should talk to them.

I have some free periods where I have to stay at college (eg. having one free period before the day ends, I have to wait for the college bus since I've paid for a yearly pass, more convenient than public bus) where none of my friends are free and I don't really want to sit alone so my boyfriend lets me sit with him and his friends. Obviously they don't have to talk to me and involve me in conversations but when it's a group of 5 of us total, it would be nice to be acknowledged.

Also adding that I am quite socially awkward around new people, it takes me some time to warm up to wanting to socialise with new people, especially when his friends are all cishet and my friend group are all some flavour of queer.

I'm probably overreacting at this tbh but there's just something about this that's slightly disheartening.

Reply 1

Surnia

Have you discussed this with your boyfriend; maybe it's not deliberate and he just assumes you know people? And what have you done to introduce yourself?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Surnia

Have you discussed this with your boyfriend; maybe it's not deliberate and he just assumes you know people? And what have you done to introduce yourself?

You're right, I don't think it is deliberate. I haven't talked about it yet because it wasn't something that seemed like an issue to me but my friend brought it up yesterday on the bus home so I decided to get some other opinions and see if it's bad or not.

I don't share any classes with any of his friends but I talked to one of his friends over text once about my bf's birthday present from me (he'd shown me the website before but I needed to check with his friend what it was) and I also texted another one of his friends (at bf's house from his discord account) about a game we both play . . . however he's a twin and I don't know which one is which so I wouldn't be able to talk to him when we sit as a group sometimes.

I feel like it'd be too late for introductions tbh. I could just avoid talking to them altogether and just sit by myself, which it's not fun but I wouldn't hate. It would just be nice to feel like I'm welcome to sit with my boyfriend and them but it's probably a non-issue in the grand scheme of things.