I would appreciate some advice as I feel very lost in life . I felt like I was fine but now I question it and would really like someone to just confirm whether I truly am right in believing this way or not …
So I’m 21 years old and as a person I can say that I’ve always been rather ambitious in life , since I was around 13 I would begin thinking of all these ideas of what to do, of setting up my own business someday , I took part in various things like community work and up until I was around 20 I would continue to try different things . I tried taking part in writing competitions / groups because I have a passion for writing , wrote for a magazine , had experience in a refugee centre , publishing business etc , archive work in museum . true it wasn’t anything specific like I did these things for free but I did try and at the time I thought I was going in the right direction in life but a couple of months ago came a time when I woke up and realised that none of these things are the real me , and they don’t bring me joy and that it must all mean that I must therefore have some different purpose and direction in life . Of course I know that I enjoy to help people , writing etc however I still don’t know what exactly to do with my life at the moment
Now the problem is that my parents are not happy with this attitude and they are very angry with me . They have spoilt me and worked and got all this money for me to go to university ( which I did and I graduate soon doing a humanities degree ( English & classical studies ) and they believed I would get a degree , get a job like everyone else but they see that I don’t seem to be going that way and something in me just wants to not go that way . I feel like I want to truly live this life ; experience things and learn about my purpose rather than go to some job I hate and regret my decision and when I tell them they get angry and say that I talk sh*t and that I’m lazy and do nothing which is not true because I have tried for the past few years to find something but it just didn’t work out but they say that I f*ck everything up and that there’s something wrong with me but I just feel like I haven’t found something for me yet .
I understand the need for me to pay the bills especially since I still live with them but I tried to explain that stress and negativity won’t help , I said I will apply to a job and will do something I hate just to pay the bills but I won’t be happy there anyway but I’ll do it but it’s not easy because I lack experience. They tell me that if I get a 2.1 it will be enough but clearly you need work experience so I keep telling them that I’ll just have to see what happens , try and be positive but they say that “ I gave up “ and that I’m lost when I literally said that I can give them my savings and go even work in a factory just to pay the bills if I have to and that things will work out fine , that I’m young and not everyone is a robot and that some people need more time and that I’m one of them but they get angry
Am I truly wrong in my thinking? It’s very stressful to me because I live with them and it’s hard to live in a home that ignores you just for thinking about the world differently to them . I just see that people come from poverty and with a positive attitude they make it in life so I ask why can’t I? I feel like they are over reacting.