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Why is it wrong to dump a girl for not putting out?

i do not see what is wrong with that

you want to have sex with her

she doesn't

you are unhappy so the relationship is no good for you

end it.

both are better off.

Reply 1

2ndClass

3

see no problem with it tbh

Reply 2

IFoundWonderland

19

I would say that it is better to end the relationship. You're both not in the same place, so you're better off separate.

Reply 3

ell365

5

nothing wrong with that, sex is an important part of a relationship

Reply 4

james22

16

I actually agree, although expect some nasty responses.

Reply 5

Doppelgänger

8

It's "wrong" simply because it's superficial.

Reply 6

Clip

19

It's just about the best reason there can be.

Reply 7

donkey23

5

better to put her out of her misery.

Although generally relationships aren't all about sex

Reply 8

Lollyage

14

To be honest, if a girl broke up with a guy because he didn't want to have sex everyone would back her, yet when it's the other way round the guy is suddenly a nasty piece of scum.

Reply 9

EllieC130

15

Sounds like a horrible thing to do but when you think about it, it's better to do that than a. String her along or b. Cheat on her. I won't lie, if I was dumped for that I'd be really hurt because the guy doesn't care enough to wait but there's little way around it. I think it's only really wrong if it's after a really short amount of time, like less than a week. Not saying there's anything wrong with having sex straight away but if you can't wait a week, you need a spine.

Reply 10

tnetennba

9

Depends entirely on the context.
Is it for religious reasons? A traumatic experience? Fear of the risks of intercourse? Nervousness? Or does she not know you well enough yet? Or personal values?
There is no universal answer. Best to communicate properly with each other & decide on the best course of action. Every situation is unique. Some of the answers on this thread are shockingly shallow tbh

Reply 11

rasberyl

7

Because we like to think we're better than other animals, so it's not just about sex.

Although tbh sometimes people are not ready for sex and if they're partner is not willing to wait, the relationship isn't going to last.

Reply 12

phoebe17

Clearly if you're in a happy relationship it seems fairly heartless to do so, but if you're more bothered about sex than the relationship then it definitely seems like a good idea so long as you're happier for it

Reply 13

geoking

18

Original post by rasberyl

Because we like to think we're better than other animals, so it's not just about sex.

Although tbh sometimes people are not ready for sex and if they're partner is not willing to wait, the relationship isn't going to last.