I'm seeing this girl, love her to bits but there's this other girl I work with I've found attractive before I was seeing the original girl. The girl I work with is seeing someone herself but we've always kind of flirted (never anything else) and i know she finds me good looking.
The other day we went to the gym together then nandos after, and I then dropped her home in my car around midnight (wasn't really a date though). But when I got home, I realised how much I actually like her and have strong feelings for her. I now don't know what to do. I didn't sleep well as she was on my mind.
Thing is I really like them both. I know you should be loyal but there's nothing really I can do if I develop feelings for both of them - can't control that!
I never told the girl I work with I'm seeing another girl. I guess it's because I must have liked her too and in case things didn't work with the initial girl. I've also never told the girl I work with that I actually really like her. Do you think I should? Thing is, I only sometimes see her out of work so it's hard (I'd want to do it when there aren't other nosy colleagues around)
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- Lives far from me - 1 hour - 25 to 30 miles meaning it may not be feasible (she's also always busy)
- Is a virgin even though she is extremely good looking
- Doesn't have too much of a social life suggesting she could be pretty loyal (works monday - friday, saturday she goes to the gym and swims and has a driving lesson, sunday at her nans, and then repeats the cycle)
- She was raped as a child by the guy her mum was dating (her real dad is dead). She then went anorexic and depressed and then dated LOADS of guys basically for someone to chat to about her problems. This could be around 30 guys or more. She never had sex with any of them and she said only 4 of them were serious relationships and the rest were more someone to help her out. A fair amount of them she has kissed. Some of them she even met online. Broke up with most of them as the majority seemed to want sex which she wouldn't do. Kind of recovered from anorexia/depression although she's still extremely skinny and can get upset a lot of the time (even though I want to help, you have to think if it's worth being in a relationship where ultimately you want to be happy/positive when she's always upset over things).
- Not sure if she's head over heels for me like I am for her
2nd girl:
Lives 5 miles/5 minutes fro me
Sporty like me
More chatty compared to the first girl
Could be argued to be slutty (she's slept with 7 people and she turned 17 four months ago, but then again a few were boyfriends and people she knew). Never a one night stand though. They have been people she knew well
Currently in a relationship
Seems really into me as I am for her
I had soooo strong feelings for the first girl but at the back of my mind I think it could gradually wear down and the intensity of my feelings may slowly go down since 1) She lives far away and 2) she isn't as chatty even though I find her absolutely beautiful (more attractive than the second girl who is also very good looking)