As the title says.. is it possible? Surely theres gotta be a way..
cliffs:
Met a girl at uni
Told me straight away she had a BF (LDR 5+yrs)
I (believing thats cool we can be friends) act cool and became close friends with her
A few months in, I develop more feelings for her
I indirectly tell her, she says sorry but she has a bf, she happy, i shouldn't be selfish
Few weeks later things went back to normal and I didn't mention my feeling again
3 months on, we talk a lot via Whatsapp,Facebook,etc
She says I am like her best friend.
Now I have pretty much given up on the fact that we will ever date.
But we get on really well together so I don't wanna lose the friendship
So, how do I go about this?
The feelings are still there, but I think I can handle it
I'll see her in uni next month.
I've made a lot of mistakes with this girl, which I realise now, but obv won't make same mistakes with any other girl (the obvious one being I got too close to her even though I knew she had a bf)
Also, she will come to see me during the holidays. I asked her last week, and she said Friday is good.
Then the next day, she said that it's raining so she doesn't want to come. I said ok no problem.
Then 3-4 days later, the weather was good and I asked if she could come now. She said she is lazy and doesn't want to go out yet. I again (disappointed) said ok no worries.
So the week after, I asked her when she is gonna come and see me?
She said "lool why.. do u miss me? haha"
I said yeah of course i miss my friend. I thought you might be missing me too?
Then she says Yh of course I miss you too. I will come don't worry. Be patient. Lool.
To be honest, I am kind of angry and annoyed. She promised me back in July that she would come and see me before we go back to uni in October, and now uni is just a few weeks away and she still hasn't come and it just seems to me like she keeps making up excuses.
ANYWAY, then I asked her this week and she said we can meet up on wednesday. All was set. Then at night, she said oh I can't go because my brother is home and I will go shopping, so can we do thursday?
I said yeah ok. Thursday is fine. And today I said I'll see you tomorrow and she just start making and excuses and then said I don't feel like going.
I GIVE UP. I AM LIVID WITH THIS GIRL. HER PROMISES DON'T MEAN ANYTHING.
So now, I want to know how to proceed? I haven't gave her a piece of my mind yet.. should I? Or should I just stay quiet and just distance myself from her and stop helping her/initiating convo with her etc..
Please help :/