This may seem a bit of a weird thing to write about, but I'm quite concerned
I'm 28 and have been with my 30 year old bf for a year. I'm not sure if I just didn't notice it at the start or if it's getting worse, but I'm left in disbelief by a lot of the things he does and don't know if it's normal or I should be worried.
The other day I just managed to stop him as he was about to ram a metal knife into the toaster. He then claimed he had no idea that that was dangerous
He walks around in his own world, trips over things and often obliviously walks into the road without looking and a few times I've had to pull him back in the nick of time.
He also recently signed a contract for an internet phone even though his phone doesn't have internet! Then he wondered why they wouldn't let him cancel it and now he's stuck with it.
He forgot about a very important appointment he had and ended up waking up 20 mins before it. I told him he would probably make it if he rushed out the door right now, then 10 mins later I find him in the kitchen making breakfast. I asked him what he was doing and he said 'I'm on autopilot in the morning - I have to have my breakfast'. I practically had to yank him out of the door and he luckily made it, albeit a few mins late.
We recently went to visit my family in England and he seemed to not realise he would need money for the 2 weeks so I had to take it out of my bank account (to spare him commission costs) even though I was skint myself. I felt like I was giving my child pocket money or something.
I live abroad (in the country where he's from), but I find myself having to teach him how to fill out forms even though they're in his language and I barely know myself how to fill them out.
I guess I feel more like his babysitter sometimes rather than his gf (I know that's an awful thing to say) and when we have a few days apart during the week (we don't live together) I kind of feel relieved as I don't have to watch over him and make sure he stays out of trouble and I feel I can have a breather.
I get mad at him often for doing things without thinking as it worries me and then he gets mad and says 'I'm not a child', but it frustrates me so much as I feel I can't rely on him. I have a lot going on myself at the moment, but have to let him know when he has a meeting or appointment (because he will have forgotten) and even work out how he should get there as he would get lost himself (no joke) or arrive late. Our sex life is dwindling as I don't feel 'protected' by him as I'm the one looking after him.
I guess I was just wondering if anyone else is in the same situation. I love him to bits and he's great in so many ways - I'm just flabbergasted by his actions sometimes.
Sorry for the long post