Heavy Period-Possible Miscarriage?

Ok, just thought I'd update you on what happened.
I found out today that I did have a miscarriage. I'm not sure how I'm feeling right now, just numb really.
I haven't told anyone what's happened to me and I still need to tell my ex boyfriend (We split up recently because it was a long-distance relationship and wasn't really working out as we didn't see each other enough). We are still close and have the same feelings as before but I'm scared to tell him. Of course he deserves to know but I'm worried that once he finds out things will be awkward between us. I also don't know how to go about telling him. I'm at home from uni now and could see him but we haven't met up since we split and I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to tell him to his face because I can see myself breaking down in front of him and right now I'm trying to stay strong. But it's not exactly the sort of thing I can say in a text or on msn. I could phone I suppose but I don't just want to ring him out of the blue and tell him this. I've got to tell him soon though because I'm worried that he may be angry if I leave it a while before telling him.

I'm sorry to hear that *hugs* I know it doens't necesarily sound like what you want to do right now but I would tell him straight away - Im female but I know that if I was male I'd want to know even if we were split up..........definitely do it face to face..................MSN/TPhone/text is not the way to hear about such things...............can you tell your mum........................it would help you to have someone to talk to right now *hugs again*

Thank you. No I don't think I can tell my mum. I'd like to but she's got a lot on her mind at the moment and she already worries so much about me so I don't want to cause her any further concern. I think I will tell one of my close friends what has happened so that I can talk to someone about it. I think I'm going to tell him in a text that I need to meet up with him to talk about something. I just need to think carefully about things and sort my head out before I tell him because I don't know how I'm going to tell him this.

It's a very strange situation for you to be in, to have miscarried before you even knew you were pregnant, and therefore to have to deal with both those pieces of information at once. If you had found out you were pregnant, what would you have done?

This must have come as a huge shock to you, so I really think you need some support from someone. Your ex will need to know, but he doesn't have to be the first - how about a friend or your mum, so you can talk it through and sort it out in your own mind before you tell him?

I think if I had known I was pregnant then I would have been inclined to keep the baby. It probably wouldn't have been practical with me being in my first year at university but to be honest I hadn't given it much thought. I did discuss it briefly with my ex boyfriend a while ago and he thought that the best thing for me, had I been pregnant, would have been to have an abortion because he thought I would be missing out on too much and he knows how much getting my degree means to me.

I think I will speak to my friend about it tomorrow and then tell him afterwards. She should be able to help me get my head around it a bit better. I just hope he won't feel offended that I haven't told him straight away.

awww its horrid isn;t it i had one in the summer and my best mate did as well

funnily enough we both said we had no pain only i had abit but i just gathered it was pms

i didn;t tell my ex though he didn't need to know he would have only lashed out!!
but i understand what you are going through hun and i hope that you feel better and its nice to have a supportive person thats really sweet i think,

if you need to talk to anyone then feel free to PM me okies!
xx

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, I hope you manage to cope ok. I just thought I would let you know about the Miscarriage Association, if you havent already heard of it. If you feel you might want to talk to someone out of your social circuit and with some knowledge about it, you could call them, their helpline number is 01924 200 799 and they also have a website, www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk contacting them may help you to understand a bit better what has happened and how you feel about it.

Best of Luck, Take Care