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Your parents- ok with you having sex?

rxbeef

it seems odd that shes not for you both having sex because hes on 9k a year though..

think its more of a 'support' issue. well he wants(wanted?) to join the police force and was going to go to college to study sign language etc, to help him have a better chance of getting in. but then suddenly he just said oh instead of going to college (which my mum n dad were well happy about it as its pursuing his chosen career etc) ive had an interview for a full time job and i've accepted. and to be fair its an apprentice job and a monkey could do the job! - basically answer phone, note down what they want to order and give to order to a diff. guy!

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tritogeneia1

My mum is completely open about it - I even crack dirty jokes with her, and in front of my dad.

one of my best friends (a guy) can do that with his mum and dad and even have a laugh with me about it. (im a girl btw) they don't beat around the bush, just come straight out with it. when we go out (not just me n him) his mum will just say have you got any..make sure your careful...i aint that old..etc and off he pops!

Reply 41

Hayley_2k4

12

cherrychocolate

As far as my mum is concerned I don't have sex,I've never had sex and I've never even had a boyfriend.

I just wouldn't feel comfortable discussing it with her.

exactly.

Reply 42

cutie_catty

My mum knows my boyf and he is allowed 2 stay over now. She took me for contraceptive injection bout a yr after we started going out and had been doing it for ages but she didnt know then id eva done it! but she knows im protected and that we love each other

Reply 43

minicoopa

1

my mum does the whole.... 'just be safe yeh...with...you...know...errrm....what do you want for dinner?'

Reply 44

xXMessedUpXx

15

Mine are fine with it, obviously they probably thought my first encounter was with my ex, who i wa with for 18 months (wrong..the ex before him). it was never really spoken about. and it took me forever to explain id had the implant put in :redface:

As long as she knows im being respnsible, and if its with a bf i dont think she minds, smae with my dad. that said have never been allowed to sleep in same bed as bf's when they've stayed over..and i'm 20 this year!!! But it is there house so i respect that

Reply 45

Introspecktive..

What I do with my girlfriend has nothing to do with my parents.

Reply 46

smoomoo

3

i lost my virginity at 16 and m mum found out the next day, she was dissapointed with who it was with but she put me on the pill and accepted it. now we chat about it and allsorts!

Reply 47

beanie

1

My mum is totally cool about it, we talk about everything and always have done. She was exactly the same with my brother- he's 21 and my younger brother who is 13 has known the ins and outs of sex and relationships since before he can remember. I think it is partly because she got pregnant when she was 18 and hers and my dads parents were very strict Catholics and basically forced them into marriage, with subsequently ruined all of our lives. Its kind of weird sometimes as she asumes that whenever I go to a party at someones house I'm going to be having sex, even though I have a serious boyfriend. She is always like "ok have you got things with you? do you need to stop at Tescos on the way?" The first time she asked me that I thought we were talking about tampons. The best part of it is that although my boyfriend and I have done stuff we've not gone all the way yet, but my mum seems to think I lost my virginity months ago...

Reply 48

pumpkin7

13

parents don't know, and won't know until the day i announce i am pregnant, after being married for like.. a year :biggrin:

yay!

i mean i could probably talk to my mom about it, but i know she would never trust me again so i'll just stick with the 'we aren't ready to take it that far' lie for another couple of years.

Reply 49

happydinosaur

15

It has never been mentioned by my parents. Now I guess it has reached that point where it probably won't really be discussed openly..

They are much better with my brother though. I suppose you learn something second time round...

Reply 50

I started sleeping with someone a week ago and there is no way I could tell either parent about it. For one they wouldn't approve of him but 2nd because we aren't together. I'm pretty sure, as I've never had a bf (I'm 19) , that she thinks I'm a virgin but then from some of the comments she makes I'm sure she thinks I'm sleeping with all the boys. But she is just like that. I do know of a friend's mum tho who turned round at the dinner table one night and said' You know jenny this whole sex thing isn't just for his pleasure..I hope you're enjoying it too' and then went back to eating her dinner .. what can you say to that?? lol parents are funny things. Be thankful if you can talk to yours

Reply 51

No Future

17

Hmm, my dad asked me if I knew about AIDs before I went to a party. I'm concerned as to what he thinks I'll do! :s-smilie:

Reply 52

Helenia

20

Anonymous

My parents are awful about it - they're like "you're a child playing adults games" and continually try and put me off, telling me I'm too young and my mum also called me a slut. I am 18 and me and my boyf have been together for almost 2 years now, but we're not allowed in my room at all, nor any room in the house with the door closed. At his hosue its fine but I'm still not allowed to stay over.
It's annoying. I have sex just to rebel sometimes.

That's just stupid - I don't know why they would try to restrict you so much. It just screams "We don't trust you" which is hardly helping your relationship with them OR your boyfriend.

I'm 21, so it's hardly like they could stop me, especially as I live away at uni half the year. When my boyfriend was first coming up to stay mum and I did have a discussion about where he was going to sleep - in my room on the floor, or in my sister's room and she moves in with me. In the end I just made up his bed on the floor in my room (I had all sorts of shoulder problems at the time so we couldn't actually both sleep in my bed because I'd just be in agony.) They never said anything and it's just been the way it works since then. Obviously we are discreet though.

My parents never really discuss sex with me - they told me where babies came from when I was about 3, so it was never a big deal for me.

Reply 53

~~hannah~~

4

My mum's pretty cool about it, if somewhat embarassing.

When I had my first real boyfriend, I was just turned 16, she told me to go on the pill, and even suggested this door policy, whereby if the door is shut they know not to knock or come in, and if its ajar they can, so as to avoid any real embarassment.

She's always let my boyfriends stay in my room as long as I've been with them for a month.

One time she found out that me and my boyfriend had been looking at porn on the net (we were both 16 at the time) and said 'look I'd rather you experimented for yourself!'

She guesses that I've slept with all the boyfriends I have had, which is true, but doesn't know about a few others.

As for my dad, he doesnt talk to me about it. But I like it that way.

Reply 54

happydinosaur

15

My parents are awful about it - they're like "you're a child playing adults games" and continually try and put me off, telling me I'm too young and my mum also called me a slut. I am 18 and me and my boyf have been together for almost 2 years now, but we're not allowed in my room at all, nor any room in the house with the door closed. At his hosue its fine but I'm still not allowed to stay over.
It's annoying. I have sex just to rebel sometimes.

My parents used to be like that too. They never really said much but made it quite clear thats how things would be. In the summer though they went on holiday and my dad said 'well you are 18 and I am not stupid and I can't tell you what to do but if he comes over then the sleeping bag is there for the sofa'. Mother said nothing. Mother never says anything.

Your parents- ok with you having sex?

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