I've liked this guy for 8.5 years. We met at a swim club and used to be close friends. As we used to both swim competitively, we ended up spending a lot of time together, both in the pool, and on the poolside, especially during all day swimming galas. We get along great, and I think that if I was prettier, we would probably have ended up together. (I'm somewhat plain looking and skinny, whereas he's ridiculously good looking, smart, confident, studing medicine and I know he could do better anyway). We share lots of interests, and he always talked to me more than the others over the years.
He's at uni now and I'm on a gap year, so we don't see each-other as much (though he's in the same city) however the fact I have quite a bit of free time compared to last year means I'm thinking about him a lot more. (I've had 6 sex dreams about him in 8 or so months). He's starting training more often than when he first left for uni, and he's been continually flirting with me, even though he knows I like him and he doesn't feel the same. (My 'friend' told everyone I had feelings for him so he definitely knows).
Examples of him flirting include: he puts his arms around my waist and drags me towards him when we're on the poolside. He asks me jokingly why I haven't been coming swimming lately and that it's more boring when I'm not there. When I ask why it's more boring he replies that he has no-one to wind up. He'll squirt cold water from his water bottle on me when my back is turned / before I'm about to dive. He doesn't do this to anyone else, and he seems to have stepped up the flirting since the 'friend' told everyone I liked him.
Since he found out, I've been annoyed at the fact he's stepped up the flirting, when I know he doesn't feel the same. He's not exactly shy, so it's hardly that he likes me but is scared of rejection (he asked out a new girl to our lane a few months back but she had a boyf and doesn't swim anymore. For a while he flirted with her before going back to flirting with me when she left the club).
I just don't know if he's mocking me / making fun of me or what. I'm not sure if he does it for an ego boost (he's really confident so I can't imagine why he would) or for the heck of it. Either way, I've been a bit off with him as a result, and had hoped he'd realise why. I'm not sure he has.
I just want to tell him to stop flirting with me when he's not romantically interested because it ****ing hurts, clearly leaving out the fact I've liked him for 8.5 years. I kinda liked the attention at first I admit, but it's gone too far now. I don't want things to get mega awkward between us, and I don't want to quit swimming because I have other friends there I get on with and it's the only sport I like. I also want to be able to move on, because whilst I've been in a relationship before and have liked other guys, I guess I haven't felt the same way about anyone as I do about him.