The Revamped TSR Asperger's Society!

Yeah you're right it is an advantage, if you get over the loneliness.

An AS guy with a girlfriend? Interesting. How did you meet him?

And hello everybody. Didn't know they had this society on TSR.

I see it both as an advantage and a disadvantage.

Being knowledgeable and remembering facts is an advantage but difficulty making friends, understanding joke etc is a disadvantage.

I also have a gf and been with her for nearly 3 years. Yeah.

From what I've seen online (here and other places) and what I've heard from my docs, it seems that most people with an AS diagnosis are okay with it or actually see it as a good thing. Me on the other hand... I'd rather have brain cancer or a missing leg than this.

See, I don't even fit in with other aspies...

I've mostly given up on trying to make friends for that reason. As I mentioned previously, the majority of the time I see around 80% of people to be a waste of time. I have had friends but I've either outgrown them, or realised how immature/stupid they are.

How come? I didn't like the idea of having a label at first, but I came to terms with it and realised it doesn't change who I am and who I am is awesome... No but seriously, there are advantages of it, maybe you should focus on those rather than the negatives?


Someone else who shares my selective misanthropy For me it's not I can't make friends, just that I find the vast majority of people to be dull and tiresome. The other 20% of alternative people though, are awesome

Define 'alternative' people? If you mean those who think it is cool to put holes in their face and ears whilst having their hair dyed *insert primary influenced colour here*, I find them to be more tiresome and hypocritical than the 'normals'.

Essentially, I just loathe people.

I'm currently browsing gaming walkthroughs and similar and so I'm on here too

Exactly. I don't have anyone I call a friend and often have to rely on myself to get things done. Although that being said, I find the majority of 'friends' I have had to be a colossal waste of time.

Isit? What games?

*Still hasn't left the house*

Yes! I met him through a friend and didn't even know he has AS for a good while after meeting him. It's strange though; as soon as I found out, certain things made a lot more sense, his shyness, certain quirks, interests bordering on obsessions.. We got to know each other talking on Facebook, which allowed me to get to know him easier than if we'd been face to face, as he is much better talking online. Eventually he asked me on a date, and I accepted. That was three years ago, now we are talking about getting married and starting a family, although he asks me for a lot of advice about being a parent as he's worried about whether he'll be able to cope. He even worries about things like how to handle drugs/alcohol etc when our child comes into contact with them.. Even though that may not happen for 25 years yet! But being able to plan things seems to be comforting to him so I'd never stop him from asking me questions, however odd they might be.

With regards to education, he attended a mainstream primary school but then attended a specialist boarding school for autistic children between the age of 11-18. Thanks to whatever happened in that school, he is now able to live a normal life (although he can't find a job- but that's not unique to him at all), can travel abroad independently and loves doing so, and is currently doing some GCSEs that he didn't get the chance to do at school (he's 27 and GCSEs weren't offered at his school when he was there, although students can opt to do them now).

I didn't know him as a child, but even his Mum seems surprised when she sees us together, holding hands and hugging, because apparently he hated all of that as a child. I like to think that it means he really loves me if he's able to be physical with me in that way.

Currently looking at Skyrim, pretty addicted atm

I need to check that game out. I been hearing about it. Is it an RPG? I usually play FPS or war strategy (Total War)

How come? I didn't like the idea of having a label at first, but I came to terms with it and realised it doesn't change who I am and who I am is awesome... No but seriously, there are advantages of it, maybe you should focus on those rather than the negatives?

I didn't mean the label itself, I meant all those things that the label represents. Sure, there are some good things about having Asperger's, but at this point in my life they are in a heavy minority compared to all the disadvantages.

The doctor who diagnosed me said that people who are found to have a chronic or fatal condition go through five stages of grief. I don't know, maybe I'm just not at the "acceptance" stage yet and so I keep wishing I had a brain tumor instead.