As a male who hasnt had a gf yet, i was wondering the other day, there are so many girls out there that im yet to meet/could meet i dont feel as though im ready to jump straight into a relationship with the first girl that i go on a date with.
Im just wondering how girls would feel about a guy going on dates with multiple girls (i wont sleep with them as id like to lose that with someone who cares about me) would that put me seen as a player or just playing the field? Does it have negative connotations?
Just asking as a) id like to hear peoples opinion on it, b) id like to meet someone i really connect with or get along well with as if i get with the first person i meet id feel a little like im settling.
Its just that at 22, ive spent 2 years really trying to improve my confidence and at the same time trying to go on dates and alas nothing has occured. After turning 22 i've decided to put more effort in trying to meet someone (which in effect is counter productive as it can come across as being desperate but still) i want to get out there and meet people, expand my social circle (primarily of girls of course) as the girls that i meet though they may seem potential partners at first im sure a few of them would like to still be my friend. Hopefully. As you can never have too many friends imo. Its got to a point where i dont give a **** anymore, im just gonna speak to as many girls and see what happens. Im not gonna gonout with my mates promarily to talk to girls as thats deaperate but going out and having fun, and if the opportunity arises ill talk to someone.
Is it ok to play the field, am i ok to be a little bit apprehensive about jumping straight into a relationship with the first girl i meet? As she may think im cheating on her (even tho not being together) by seeing someone else at the same time ( same reason why im a little apprehensive about asking a girl out who is already seeing someone, not dating seeing) Your thoughts?!