Will he ever leave his girlfriend for me?

We've only just met but we have an amazing connection. I believe him when he says that he is unhappy with his girlfriend. I like him so much and we are really happy together. Will he ever leave? Has anyone ever been in this sit?

Reply 1

How Are You?

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I've been in this situation in my dreams. So, i can say with confidence that i have a lot of experience regarding your situation. I would take advantage of both worlds. I would have fun with both my girl friend and my girlfriend. Having fun is the purpose of life.

Reply 2

Tyrion_Lannister

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They never leave their girlfriend for you :rolleyes:

they all say it, they promise you the world but very few actually do it. I've been the "other girl" before and it rarely works.

I do know someone where it did though - so up to you if you want to go for it!

Reply 3

brightcitylights

OP

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Original post by How Are You?

I've been in this situation in my dreams. So, i can say with confidence that i have a lot of experience regarding your situation. I would take advantage of both worlds. I would have fun with both my girl friend and my girlfriend. Having fun is the purpose of life.

He's unhappy with her.

Reply 4

How Are You?

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Original post by brightcitylights

He's unhappy with her.

I'll give you a serious answer. Move on or wait for him until he breaks up with his girlfriend.

Reply 5

Freudian Slip

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Original post by Tyrion_Lannister

I've been the "other girl" before and it rarely works.

Absolutely this.

All things considered, if I'd ended up with him, I'd probably have ended up convinced he would do to me what he'd done to his previous girlfriend. At the end of the day, whether he's supposedly unhappy or not, he's spoken for and that's a can of worms not worth opening, in my experience.

Reply 6

Tyrion_Lannister

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Original post by Freudian Slip

Absolutely this.

All things considered, if I'd ended up with him, I'd probably have ended up convinced he would do to me what he'd done to his previous girlfriend. At the end of the day, whether he's supposedly unhappy or not, he's spoken for and that's a can of worms not worth opening, in my experience.

Lmao it's funny you say this. I did it twice, because I am an idiot who never learns, and one of the times he did to me exactly what he did to her. Me and his ex (who he was seeing at the time) had a big argument and she said to me "you're welcome to him, he'll do it to you you know" and that turned out to be the only truth I got out of the whole relationship :lol:

Reply 7

Emilin

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Original post by Tyrion_Lannister

Lmao it's funny you say this. I did it twice, because I am an idiot who never learns, and one of the times he did to me exactly what he did to her. Me and his ex (who he was seeing at the time) had a big argument and she said to me "you're welcome to him, he'll do it to you you know" and that turned out to be the only truth I got out of the whole relationship :lol:

Once a cheater, always a cheater. That's saying, isn't it?

Reply 8

Tyrion_Lannister

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Original post by Emilin

Once a cheater, always a cheater. That's saying, isn't it?

Haha it is a saying. I don't think it's always true, but from what OPs said, it sounds a bit...dodgy

Reply 9

Mrx123

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if he was willing to leave her for you, what's to stop him from leaving you for someone else some day?

Reply 10

salterjo3

Original post by Mrx123

if he was willing to leave her for you, what's to stop him from leaving you for someone else some day?

I ended a LTR with someone once because I met someone else and it made me realise that the relationship was really not what I wanted. But I was already going, it just brought it forward by a few weeks. But I didn't go around moaning to the new person how unhappy I was with the current and I didn't hang around. We're talking about a few days timeline.

My advice would be to say, "I'm sorry to hear that, you have my number. Call me when you're single". Then go away. Don't hang about for him. Don't go trying to compete or steal him or show him how much happier you two would be - gets messy.

Reply 11

SophiaLDN

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You'll lose him how you got him.

Reply 12

The_Internet

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Moved to relationships.

OP, I reckon it depends on the guy? That being said, he should definitely leave his gf, before he's with you... Like it doesn't really show loyalty otherwise, really

Reply 13

Another

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If he hasn't left his girlfriend by now, he won't do it.

Reply 14

TolerantBeing

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Just tell him he needs to leave his girlfriend first.

That way he wouldn't become a cheater and I think it would be better for trust in the long term.

If he's not willing to leave his girlfriend first, then it's highly likely he's willing to cheat.

Reply 15

LolaLowe

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Original post by brightcitylights

We've only just met but we have an amazing connection. I believe him when he says that he is unhappy with his girlfriend. I like him so much and we are really happy together. Will he ever leave? Has anyone ever been in this sit?

Listen. Breaking up with someone sucks. Its hard to do and there is emotion and regret and accusation and heartache on one side or both. If he can avoid going through this and still be with you why on earth wouldnt he? If I was you I'd follow what others here have said and thats tell him to call you when he is single, then he has to make a choice between you and thats a lot more honest a relationship.

Reply 16

trustmeimlying1

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Original post by Tyrion_Lannister

They never leave their girlfriend for you :rolleyes:

they all say it, they promise you the world but very few actually do it. I've been the "other girl" before and it rarely works.

I do know someone where it did though - so up to you if you want to go for it!

is anyone forgetting thats it wrong getting with him if he already has a gf:? :angry:

Original post by brightcitylights

We've only just met but we have an amazing connection. I believe him when he says that he is unhappy with his girlfriend. I like him so much and we are really happy together. Will he ever leave? Has anyone ever been in this sit?