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I slept with a guy and he has a girlfriend (I didn't know). Do I tell her?

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I'd say no, don't say anything. I know his behaviour is completely immoral but if he's not ready to accept his sexuality, having it plastered all over various social media will not end well.

Reply 21

Pectorac

Original post by H0ls

I'd say no, don't say anything. I know his behaviour is completely immoral but if he's not ready to accept his sexuality, having it plastered all over various social media will not end well.

Should I keep sleeping with him? I want to.

Reply 22

H0ls

Original post by Pectorac

Should I keep sleeping with him? I want to.

If you really want to? Let him know that you've stumbled across his Facebook and realised he's in a relationship. Ask him what the deal is.

Reply 23

Anonymous #2

Is he top, bottom or versatile?

Reply 24

Pectorac

Original post by Anonymous

Is he top, bottom or versatile?

Bottom.

Reply 25

louieee

stick to your morals lad, you're not gonna find the answer here...it comes from within. Only you know what you should do because us telling you what's right and wrong isn't a fact, it's just how we feel about the situation so there really is nothing you should do.

However:

if I were in your situation, I probably wouldn't have the strength to tell her. I'd really, really want to and I'd feel guilty for not, but my heart would want her to know. But because I'm such a weak-minded person, I'd just give in to him and forget about his gf. Though it should be different for you, obviously you're attractive enough to get sex so you're not hugely losing out by telling her, realistically you've got nothing to lose and a massive burst of pride to gain (in my opinion).

So forget about the guy, you can find another, it all comes down to whether or not you think the girl should know (she deserves to know). And ignore what people are saying about not outing the guy, if he's willing to have sex with a lad then he shouldn't keep his sexuality hidden. An innocent girls' heart is at stake here, that's the important thing.

tl;dr

just ****ing tell her

Reply 26

Nuffles

Walk away brother. Their relationship isn't your business, and as much as she should know it's not your place start chatting to her. Stop sleeping him him, there are other guys out there (who are better in bed too, christ the sex I was having when I was 16 was awful compared to the sex I have now six years later) who are actually single! Tell him he should probably consider his girlfriend before he sleeps around and then not to contact you again.

Reply 27

pinejuice

if you tell her she'll either hate you for "stealing him" even though you had no clue
she'll think you're lying and that you are trying to have sex with him
or she'll believe you
its a tricky situation because the chances of her believing you are slim

Reply 28

Pectorac

Original post by pinejuice

I have texts from him, face pics he sent on iMessage and cctv of him walking in and out of my house from my dad's cameras.

Reply 29

overthelove

As much as you'll want to tell her, I don't think you should. It's kind of not your place. The guy should be the one to be like, look I cheated with a guy and I'm sorry and we should end it to his girlfriend. I recommend not seeing the guy again. Hate the cheesy quote but if he can cheat on her with you, he can cheat on you with someone else. Good luck :smile:

Reply 30

Anonymous #3

Only 16... U clearly see this as a game... Shame on you

Reply 31

a10

mushrooom tip up dat man ass :biggrin:

on a srs note yes tell her..

Reply 32

Anonymous #4

Original post by Pectorac

I have texts from him, face pics he sent on iMessage and cctv of him walking in and out of my house from my dad's cameras.

#walkofshame

Reply 33

Pectorac

Original post by Anonymous

Only 16... U clearly see this as a game... Shame on you

Of course it's a game. I'm finding it funny now really.

Reply 34

mollyxrose

It's not your place to tell his girlfriend that he's bi, that's his thing to do in his own time. Tell him that you know he has a girlfriend and stop sleeping with him. Doubt you want to be caught up in all of that.

Reply 35

Anonymous #4

Plot twist: This is all fictitious

Reply 36

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Plot twist: This is all fictitious

My thoughts exactly... All made up for attention. Top lad

Reply 37

Llamageddon

Original post by llys

Don't bother unless you have proof. Why would she believe you?

Link the grindr account.

Yes

Original post by H0ls

I'd say no, don't say anything. I know his behaviour is completely immoral but if he's not ready to accept his sexuality, having it plastered all over various social media will not end well.

Yeah.... how about we also consider the girlfriend that was cheated on? He doesn't have to plaster it over social media, but a personal meeting ( or private chat online) would more than suffice.