Can you be just friends with a girl you have feelings for? (updated)

I don't understand her. Why did she reply to my initial text? Also, are you sure that's what she means?

Or could it mean, that she is replying now cause she likes me?

I am confused :/

She's definitely playing around. If she was really interested in you, she wouldn't have scrapped plans to meet with you in the first place. She just wants to see your reaction, then goad you into thinking she likes you when she already has a boyfriend.

Ahh I should not have messaged her. Everybody told me to NOT message her and I felt sorry for her and messaged. And now she is being stupid.
She ignored me message. Now what? Do I message again? Or should I just leave it be?
I am fuming right now

Don't bother with this girl anymore. Go out there and find another girl who will treat you better.

Stop letting her play games and just talk about this **** normally, actually use your words and talk about it, lay your cards out on the table and work it out, if she's still being stupid then drop her like a sack of sh*t, if she's reasonable then you should be able to work out what you want to do next; being friends or stop talking or whatever. Dude take the advice people are giving you and stop with this thread


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Find another girl to have feelings for then your feelings for her will lessen and you can be friends.

Why you putting yourself through this, she's basically saying you're a piece of crap, and you aren't showing me you disagree. Stop thinking this girl is anything special, delete her number, delete her pictures, delete her messages and fdb. Next time she hits you up I want you to be like "who's this?"

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STOP BEING OBSESSIVE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOURSELF. You are being way too clingy, leave her. Spend time on you, enjoy learning about yourself and enjoying life. The right person will come along in time. There is a time for everything. Stop sending messages and waiting for replies. You need to get on with your life. If your friend was this involved with a girl, you'll tell them to get out of it! It will be difficult but you can do it! Think for yourself and be assertive. Sometimes in life it's good to know when enough is enough.

Oh for goodness sake OP grow a backbone and stop letting this girl manipulate you. She is not interested in you except as a distraction when her boyfriend isn't around, and trust me, she hasn't only seen him once in the last how ever many years, I'm willing to bet he's the reason she didn't meet up with you. She's using you and you are allowing her to do it. Cut her off. Delete her number, unfriend her on Facebook, and move on with your life. Problem solved.

Like what? You're as much to blame in all of this as she is with your clingy neediness. Look，ive been where you are，this is not going to end the way you want it to，trust me，you need to cut your losses. She’ll be losing you as a friend，so in a way，thats your revenge. Chalk it up to experience and move on with your life，and next time，never tell a friend you have feelings for them unless you are absolutely 100% sure they feel the same way and are single!

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Don't proceed with anything. We are trying to help you OP, cut off all contact with her and dont let her manipulate you any more.
It will save any potential hearbreak in the future if you let her drag you back in.

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You are not reading what we have told you. We told you to STOP talking to her, cut your losses and move on. You need to CONCENTRATE on yourself. Life will get better, but the Ball is in your court. Unless you enjoy being hurt or are just obsessed you will move on. It may be hard but it will better for you. Have some strength and leave