Can you be just friends with a girl you have feelings for? (updated)

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Don't.

Hmm.. I won't wan't to just ditch her, that's not the kind of person I am. But for sure I am taking a step back and just focusing on other things rather than her all the time.

Don't what? I mean I am not messaging her for a while at least until I am feeling in a talking mood. But if she messages me, then how to proceed? That's what I am asking..

lol alright

You've stated that her actions insofar as they affect you are "indefensible", i.e. without excuse; yet by continuing the friendship, you are excusing her.

Nah that won't work. Sure, you want to be nice about it but it'll just complicate things.

See this will happen. You slowly back off. She realises something's awry, makes a grab at you (again emotionally, always so), you come back, back to square one.

You just need to cut her off. Be pleasant in the "how are you" whenever she asks but don't meet up, and for ****s sake, get yourself a real girlfriend ASAP.

If you don't want to be her friend then ignore it. Why would you talk to someone you aren't friends with? Other than for purely work related reasons.

I DO want to be her friend. But I just need to be less attached to her and stuff. And she needs to realise and appreciate how good a friend I've been to her. Sometimes you don't appreciate something until its taken away from you. Lol.

You sound so self involved there it's unbelievable. From the things you have posted on this site you don't seem to have been that great of a friend you get angry at her all the time and you're pushy and needy, which aren't great components to a friend. Though judging by what you've said about her, she isn't great either.

You sound so self involved there it's unbelievable. From the things you have posted on this site you don't seem to have been that great of a friend you get angry at her all the time and you're pushy and needy, which aren't great components to a friend. Though judging by what you've said about her, she isn't great either.

No, I mean believe it or not, we get on really well together. And I know she would be upset if I stopped being her friend. I am not acting selfishly here honestly.
I know I have been pushy and needy and I am working on that. I only got angry because she flaked on me 5 times - no one's ever done that to me and tbh she calls me her best friend and she does that so I was angry for reason.

Well I have been honest in what I am saying. What I want is for things to go back to normal, I will less attached to her and I won't be pushy or needy ever again towards her.

I'm sorry but somehow I doubt that

So you think after a few weeks I will crawl back to her and be a doormat again, and be all needy again and ask her for meet me 5 times and get angry when she flakes?
NO. No way. This was the last straw.

Honestly yes.

Lol. Why would I do that?

And I really don't want that to happen and I will make sure it doesn't (hopefully).

Because you're still quite rapidly posting on this thread because you're still clearly angry at her, you're rant about her and yet you still want to be friends with her. That anger can quickly turn back into infatuations and it probably will, this time next month you'll wish you could be with her again.

Oh no I hope that doesn't happen. :/
What can I do? I will see her in uni for the next 2 years..

Let her go, even if you can't let her go physically because you'll be at the same uni you need to let her go emotionally. You need to stop blaming her and being angry at her (regardless of whether or not she is wrong). You will not be over her until you can think about her and the things she has done that made you angry/ upset and feel nothing at all.