I'm extremely horny

Ok, for the past couple of months I've been single (I'm also a virgin btw). One thing I definitely miss is the emotion/touching that comes with a relationship, and although I've never had penetrative sex we did do other things. Lately I have been extremely horny to the point that I masturbate almost daily and have a lot of sex dreams. Any tips on how to curb these feelings? If I look at a dude, I pretty much instantaneously cast my eyes to his crouch. It's that serious :s-smilie:

Nope

Yeah just listen to me, I'm in a similar situation, little touching, little emotion, but... I'm in a relationship :biggrin:

We've got a crisis and I'm not going to force anything but it's very frustrating, and as I'm not single I couldn't even find myself a **** buddy or a one night stand even if I wanted to. (The latter I wouldn't ever)
Like, I'm fully committed and I get that sometimes people might need a break but I'm frustrated.
We can cry together :x

edit: sorry for the swear filter thingie, didn't know how exactly it worked :smile:

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 3

S1elyak1

21

I understand how you feel. Are you on the poll by any chance?

Would you be open to a friend with benefits? Because that would help with your situation.

Reply 4

Zargabaath

21

Original post by Anonymous

If I look at a dude, I pretty much instantaneously cast my eyes to his crouch. It's that serious :s-smilie:

OMG STOP OBJECTIFYING MEN LIKE THEYRE PEICES OF MEAT OMG CHECK UR PRIVILEGE WE ARENT JUST HERE FOR YOU TO LOOK AT.

jk, doubt there's anything wrong with you. It sounds obvious but try looking for someone to "fulfil" your needs :wink:

. Either that or watch porn lol

Reply 5

Mixed hammer

I'm like that all the time don't worry

Reply 6

Zarek

21

Don't curb it, this is the drive that spurs you on to find a top notch partner.

Reply 7

Truflais

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Original post by A5ko

If this wasn't anon, I bet your inbox would be exploding with 'friend' requests.

OP, it's pretty normal to go through patches like that. Do you have any hobbies etc? If not I'd definitely look into something that will keep you a bit more distracted.

Reply 8

Infan2a

You're gonna have to keep flicking those urges away unless you risk your ovaries exploding :sadnod:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for the advice so far. Not really into the whole sex friend thing since I'd much rather give up my v-card while in a relationship. I'll definitely start exploring more hobbies. I would frequent the gym more often but all the testosterone and muscle in the air would only make things worse :frown:

Reply 10

battycatlady

13

Oh gosh, you remind me of me when I first lost my virginity. For like the following month I was permanently horny xD

Yeah, do something to occupy yourself. Maybe you could read more (even bad erotic fanfiction if you wish). Go for a jog on your own, then there won't be muscly men hovering around :P

Honestly though, it's ok to lose your virginity not in a relationship :smile:

but that's your choice! Casual sex can be fun though :wink:

hobby

I've been having sex dreams almost every night these days, over these last 2 weeks, which is weird because it's extremely rare that I'd ever dream of sex
last night I dreamed I got a job at my local university grocery store and they didn't tell me that my first shift was from 9am until midnight - I actually woke up angry that they would hypothetically do that to me - what ****ers

Reply 13

trustmeimlying1

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Original post by Anonymous

Thanks for the advice so far. Not really into the whole sex friend thing since I'd much rather give up my v-card while in a relationship. I'll definitely start exploring more hobbies. I would frequent the gym more often but all the testosterone and muscle in the air would only make things worse :frown:

know what yeh mean..yeh if you keep yourself busy over time youll get more used to it.keep doing what youre doing :tongue:

after a while you may even find a lad who youll want to lose your v card to.

Reply 14

Sam Walters

3

Pretty normal from my experience. I used to live with 3 girls and that was an eye opener.

Funniest thing though was when one of them bought a guy back then kicked him out 20 minutes later as she wanted to go to the kebab van instead of having sex. Ha!

Reply 15

SebCross

14

Ditto the advice that's already been given. You may not want to go all the way with someone until you're in a committed relationship, and that's commendable, but surely you should make arrangements to 'have fun' in other ways with someone in your life (ie 'friends with benefits' but without penetrative sex)?

Reply 16

username47781

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Please can we keep the posts sensible, thanks

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by SebCross

Ditto the advice that's already been given. You may not want to go all the way with someone until you're in a committed relationship, and that's commendable, but surely you should make arrangements to 'have fun' in other ways with someone in your life (ie 'friends with benefits' but without penetrative sex)?

I would, but all my friends who I'd consider potential sex friends are in uni atm (i'm on a gap year), and it'd be kinda weird calling them out of the blue asking them to do me when we've always had a strictly platonic relationship lol. Also, i'm not attracted to anyone who's in my circle of friends near me and I can't imagine myself specifically setting out to befriend a guy for the sole purpose of becoming sex friends. I think I'll just find something to take up my time until uni comes :colondollar:

Reply 18

SebCross

14

Original post by Anonymous

I would, but all my friends who I'd consider potential sex friends are in uni atm (i'm on a gap year), and it'd be kinda weird calling them out of the blue asking them to do me when we've always had a strictly platonic relationship lol. Also, i'm not attracted to anyone who's in my circle of friends near me and I can't imagine myself specifically setting out to befriend a guy for the sole purpose of becoming sex friends. I think I'll just find something to take up my time until uni comes :colondollar:

Well obviously it comes down to personal boundaries and preferences and stuff but there's nothing wrong with entering into a 'friends with benefits' arrangement with someone, if that has the potential to satisfy you.

And yeah, a new hobby could be good for you.