What should I do about this female friend?

This is what I am struggling with. I know deep down I can't have her but I just am hoping for s miracle or something :/

Stop waiting for a miracle that won't happen. She has a boyfriend, and regardless, doesn't see you more than a "friend" (or, by the sound of it, someone who is super nice to her).

You clearly aren't over her and you aren't being friends with her because you want to be her friend if you're "waiting for a miracle", it means you still want a relationship that you're not going to get.

Accept the fact that your friendship is unhealthy and, to be honest, you could just tell her you still like her and that if she's never going to feel the same way, you think it's best you stop being friends. At least then you've given her a reason for your termination of the friendship.

And once you've stopped talking, find some new friends, enjoy yourself.

There is more to life than this one girl.

You WILL like someone else.

Stop pretending you want to be her friend and secretly praying for more. It won't happen.

See most of the time this happens because there is literally no one else! So my advice is, if there isn't anyone else that gives you attention, keep going with her. Once you find another, get rid of her. As long as you don't spend any money on her, make life decisions because of her and are living a healthy life, no problem being obsessed over someone. If you aren't living a healthy life, she isn't the problem, the problem is your's - you need to speak with your GP.

That was actually a joke but on a serious note, maybe go out more, there's plenty of people out there. You just gutta' find them.

I abandoned ship about ten pages ago...is this thread really still going?!

OP...wtf? You're going in circles. Round and round and round. This is crazy.

Feelings are something you can't control. I believe you caught feelings for her. If you don't want your feelings to get stronger keep a distance mate before it is too strong. Shes in a relationship, her boyfriend probably does not like when other boys are around her, before she puts a distance you put a distance. You could find someone else that cares for you, shes not the only girl. Don't think of her a lot, try not to because that would just worsen the situation.


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Yeah I think I am way too nice to her. I just can't help it. If I don't help her or refuse, I feel guilty. I don't know how to stop being like that.I know I am not over her. I want to be in a relationship with her. Yes. But I don't want to lose her from my life. She is important for me.I just cannot decide what to do. If I tell her, she will reject me and I don't know how I will handle that. If I continue like this, I will always be sad.

Maybe her rejecting you again will help you accept that nothing will happen, so that you can move on.

I only have one more piece of advice for you, but if I tell you I'll most definitely be perma-banned. Already been warned for being honest to you on this thread.

Go on, I double dare you

Clearly not, this guy is blatantly obsessively-insane ... he has no intention to stop! He'll keep going.

But I like TSR

It's not about listening to your advice. I don't want to move on. I want her...

It's not about listening to your advice. I don't want to move on. I want her.

I just cannot decide what is more important for me. Having her in my life as a friend, or telling her how I feel (again) being most likely rejected, and then damaging the relationship altogether..