would you rather be dumped face to face or via text?

I think if the person meant anything to you and you ever respected them then you would meet up and say it in person.
They deserve that at least. To do otherwise is, imo, dishonourable.

If you don't really care much about them anymore then I suppose just text them.

Original post by Daenerys...

Really?

I want it to happen face to face so I can give them a piece of my mind and make them uncomfortable. Also I'd use the opportunity to hurt them back.

You sound lovely. :smile:

I will never truly understand why decent people would want to hurt their exes, didn't you love them once?

Reply 43

Heffalump .

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Face to face
Text just shows they're a massive pussy and don't care enough to actually go up and tell you
They would be putting their feelings before yours by showing you no respect?

Reply 44

ChaoticButterfly

Can;t think of anything worse than being told via text and then never seeing them again :/ Although if it was due to them being scared of you for some reason then I guess that is understandable. I hope it wouldn't be like that with me though :erm:

I wouldn't mind (as far as getting dumped goes) being told via text and then meeting up to talk about it though.

Reply 45

Original post by OU Student

I've dumped someone via text. He replied with "ok, I see you soon" and then wouldn't stop begging to meet up to talk. I refused and he couldn't understand why. Um, because I want you to leave me alone? I know that if I did it face to face, he would have just begged me to carry on going out with him.

Ugghh what a desperate creature that guy

Reply 46

Original post by Maid Marian

I think if the person meant anything to you and you ever respected them then you would meet up and say it in person.
They deserve that at least. To do otherwise is, imo, dishonourable.

If you don't really care much about them anymore then I suppose just text them.

You sound lovely. :smile:

I will never truly understand why decent people would want to hurt their exes, didn't you love them once?

Oh shut up Marian no one gives a **** about your sensibilities when someone ends the relationship they are ending my feelings towards them. Don't get me wrong I still feel something for them but that doesn't negate my scorn.

Reply 47

chocolatesauce

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face to face would be nice, if that's not possible then call them up

Reply 48

Maid Marian

Original post by Daenerys...

Oh shut up Marian no one gives a **** about your sensibilities when someone ends the relationship they are ending my feelings towards them. Don't get me wrong I still feel something for them but that doesn't negate my scorn.

My sensibilities? It's not about being sensible, it's about not being a tosser.

Reply 49

Danz123

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Original post by Daenerys...

Oh shut up Marian no one gives a **** about your sensibilities when someone ends the relationship they are ending my feelings towards them. Don't get me wrong I still feel something for them but that doesn't negate my scorn.

Didn't you make a thread about people bullying you on TSR and that you wanted to share your experiences? Well, it sounds like you should take a look in the mirror. I've seen many a post in which your words were less than savoury.

Reply 50

Original post by Maid Marian

My sensibilities? It's not about being sensible, it's about not being a tosser.

I am entitled to feel upset when my relationship ends because "I can't see us working out" if they provide a more comprehensive and plausible reason I'd leave it but if it's unfair or because they've been cheating or want to go with another girl they'll be seeing the wrong Daenerys... :redface:

Reply 51

Original post by Danz123

Didn't you make a thread about people bullying you on TSR and that you wanted to share your experiences? Well, it sounds like you should take a look in the mirror. I've seen many a post in which your words were less than savoury.

My previous post amounts to saying 'shut up stop judging me' I doubt that could be considered as bullying even by the most faint-hearted. In other words get a grip Mr White Knight.

Women can be just as loud and rude as men I will not subscribe to your frankly sexist ideals by playing into the male narrative of 'all females should act like ladies'.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 52

Maid Marian

Original post by Daenerys...

I am entitled to feel upset when my relationship ends because "I can't see us working out" if they provide a more comprehensive and plausible reason I'd leave it but if it's unfair or because they've been cheating or want to go with another girl they'll be seeing the wrong Daenerys... :redface:

If they'd been cheating or had done you other injustice, I would not blame you for being angry.

The bigger person would, however, rise above the situation. :smile:

Reply 53

stargirl63

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Original post by Daenerys...

That's the thing it will be hard to ignore me face-to-face and it's harder to walk away from someone. I've never had someone just say "This will not work out, sorry" usually they beat around the bush and they try to explain the reasoning behind their action.

I think it's really cowardly to just walk away without an explanation.

I wouldn't say it was cowardly. When I broke up with my ex, I had my mind made up. He kept talking about how it could work, what he would do to be better, let's go back to dating etc etc. I wasn't having it. Every time I tried to explain my reasons, I got interrupted, so I just left. Also, I guess it's good that I got interrupted, because my explanation would have been very simply " i don't want you anymore". I always thought that explaining would be a bit like rubbing salt in the wound - telling that person their flaws and why you don't wanna be with them.

Reply 54

Danz123

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Original post by Daenerys...

My previous post amounts to saying 'shut up stop judging me' I doubt that could be considered as bullying even by the most faint-hearted. In other words get a grip Mr White Knight.

Women can be just as loud and rude as men I will not subscribe to your frankly sexist ideals by playing into the male narrative of 'all females should act like ladies'.

It wasn't exactly the nicest thing to say, but yes, not that bad. However, you've said a lot of of dubious things, especially with regards to men (and yet claiming you're a feminist). I remember that 'video games, porn and masculinity' thread, where you said 'men are no longer men'. Isn't that the same as saying men aren't 'real men' any more? Obviously, the term 'real man' is defined by some archaic notion of what a man should be, so it's quite ironic that you consider yourself a feminist and yet hurt the label by pushing expectations of male gender roles. Feminists should be fighting against ALL gender expectations. It does no good to just shame men for not acting like 'real men' and then turning around and getting upset at female gender roles. It's hypocritical.

I also remember a quote where you talked about women of colour and trans women. So not only do you have some vitriol aimed at men in general, you seem to think of trans women as not 'real' or natural women, and expect women of colour to praise white women like you for 'liberating' them and fighting for their rights.

On top of that, even in this thread you seem to think it's OK to hurt someone for dumping you.That's the most petty thing ever. Sure, being dumped hurts, but trying to get revenge by emotionally abusing them is just low. If someone wants to break up with you, that doesn't necessarily make them a bad person, and you have no right to hurt them intentionally when they (at least for the vast majority of people) have no intention of hurting you.

EDIT: Oh the irony of a so-called feminist using the term 'white knight'. You do realise guys use that term against other guys whenever any guy stands up for women's rights? It's incredibly stupid because I was flagging up the hypocrisy of you complaining about bullying and yet making ignorant, hurtful statements about groups of people and individuals. I do not defend anyone to try and have sex with them. :lol:

Oh, and where the hell did I say that 'all females should act like ladies'? You completely pulled that out of your ass. How you managed to turn my post into some sort of sexism against women is beyond me.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 55

Mrpianoman