is your boyfriend very emotional and sensitive? if so i can totally understand how difficult your situation may be.. i'm kind of in a similar situation myself..i told my boyfriend that I was close to breaking up with him once and now he tells me that if i wanted to do it once, how does he know I won't feel the same way tomorrow, or in a months time etc. Anyway..try to reassure him by telling him that you have had time to think and it's made you realise you want this work..talk about how there's more happy times that you have rather than bad (hopefully) and tell him that things might take time for you guys to be in a better place. Tell him that if you didn't want things to work you wouldn't be trying with him again.. what makes it difficult is that you have left him before, so really he only has your word to go by, that you won't leave again..can i ask.. how comes you left him before?

Reply 9

2077765

Ive done all of that dont think ill work his not emotional or sensitive well he doenst show it ...dont get me wrong his sweet and knd and he cares about me but ive been hurt soo much in my previous relationships and his been patient wth me but my head keeps telling me his using you etc and i want to trust him but my insecuritys wont let me and i left him because it felt like it wasnt goig no where

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

from what you've just said maybe you need more time to just be alone.. it seems like you're carrying baggage from previous relationships and if you're uncertain about this one, whether it be because of your insecurities, or gut feeling, past relationships etc. then maybe you need to be alone for sometime to just figure out where your heads at.. It's hard to overcome insecurities because some of them are hidden deep down and sometimes we don't want to be true to ourselves.. On the other hand if you don't want to leave again (can understand why) then remind him that these insecurities you have are hard to let go of and you don't know how much time you'll need until you stop feeling like this, but you really do want to make it work between the two of you..as for trust, has he ever betrayed you?

Reply 11

2077765

He knows about my insecurities and his very caring and understanding towards me and them but i keep pushing him away and nope his never but my head keeps telling me he will im so confused i dont want to lose him

Reply 12

shawn_o1

A lot of it is also down to confidence

Reply 13

Chantelle1798

Original post by Remz00

He thinks Im going to leave him becamuse I have left him once... But he said he knows I would never cheat on him that he trusts me

Of course he'll be like that now you've left him before

Reply 14

Plumstone

To be honest, the only way you can convince him you won't leave is by not leaving. The longer you stay with him, the more he is likely to believe that you're not going anywhere.

My boyfriend was still a bit worried that I was going to forget about him/get bored of him/find someone else etc, even after we had been together for a few years; mostly because he thought I might change when I went to university.

I tried to tell him that it would be alright and that I loved him and wasn't ever going to give him up, but it didn't make any difference, so in the end, I just said that I would prove it to him instead of trying to convince him.

Now we're living together and he's much more relaxed about everything.