does a guy being kind make him sexually unattractive?

I heard this theory that if a guy is polite and kind (in general, not just to you), women do not see him as sexually attractive as someone who's more edgy/rough as a character.

Is that true for girls? being a a "bad boy" for some reason is considered ''hot''?

I heard this theory that if a guy is polite and kind (in general, not just to you), women do not see him as sexually attractive as someone who's more edgy/rough as a character.

Is that true for girls? being a a "bad boy" for some reason is considered ''hot''?

It depends on the guy. It is true that girls do not find 'kindness' attractive by itself. You need to have other positive and attractive attributes in order to be considered attractive. Niceness by itself is not attractive. I would argue that niceness is a baseline requirement.

You can make an easy comparison. Suppose that you have a fat short ugly 5 foot guy who plays video games in his mom's basement all day. A girl will never find this guy attractive no matter how nice they are, because they lack so many attractive qualities. Being nice will never get this guy the girl. However, compare this to a guy who is 6 foot tall, has a nice ferrari, strong jawline and six pack with lots of money and a good job with amazing social skills. He will be billion times more attractive then the first guy. He will get far more attention and positive reactions from women compared to the first guy.

I do believe that the bad boy theory is true. Girls do prefer guys who don't care about them and don't show them any attention, because not only these guys are a challenge but they also show that they are of higher value. It is all about how you perceive yourself. If you act like you're nice and suck up to her then she will think that you're below her, but if you show that you don't give a sh*t about her then she will think that you're not trying to impress her and she will see you of higher value and show you respect. Also, nice guys can't take initiative and are scared to talk to women. The phrase 'Nice guys finish last' is true because these guys wait for women to approach them, but women never approach. It's how it is. Women don't approach unless you're a god alpha male with a juicy jawline. Some nice guys need to try to take initiative, learn social skills and understand female psychology.

You’re so off!! At first it seemed like a good comparison but let’s be real it wont ever be between those two types of people. Most of the time it’s regular guys competing with each other.
If you’re a “bad boy” then you’ll attract bad girls, if you’re a good boy then you’ll attract good girls, simple!
If you’re a nerdy type of guy and you’re looking to attract the popular girl then it might not work, but how about that shy cute girl in your chemistry class?? That would definitely work.
But men never tend to look at the other girls who would be into them, instead they just go for who’s popular or has the best looks

I heard this theory that if a guy is polite and kind (in general, not just to you), women do not see him as sexually attractive as someone who's more edgy/rough as a character.

Is that true for girls? being a a "bad boy" for some reason is considered ''hot''?

Being kind doesn't make a man sexually unattractive to women.

Being a "nice guy" is what makes a man unattractive to women. This is the type of man who has expectation that if he's nice to women that they owe him a date or sex. The nice guy also gets angry when his (unwanted) kind gestures aren't well received by women.

I think kindness is the most attractive trait a guy can have. Hands down.

Also people who are unkind are automatically ugly af.

I heard this theory that if a guy is polite and kind (in general, not just to you), women do not see him as sexually attractive as someone who's more edgy/rough as a character.

Is that true for girls? being a a "bad boy" for some reason is considered ''hot''?

I heard this theory that if a guy is polite and kind (in general, not just to you), women do not see him as sexually attractive as someone who's more edgy/rough as a character.

Is that true for girls? being a a "bad boy" for some reason is considered ''hot''?

I think kindness is the most attractive trait a guy can have. Hands down.

Also people who are unkind are automatically ugly af.

I'm going to tell you a secret: A lot of guys think being kind and polite means acting like a sexless mannequin. If you do not get someone to think of you in a sexual way, then wait 4 months to get her alone and then word-vomit out 'helloilikeyoupleasesexwithme', then it will weird them out. Because they haven't thought of you as a sexual partner for 4 months and now, this houseplant just propositioned them.

Politeness varies depending on the situation. Kindness varies on the situation. You can be polite and still be the type of guy your girlfriend trusts to throw her over your shoulder viking-style(If they're in to that sort of thing). It's not easy to navigate, and it's a complex social interaction to know what is and is not appropriate in every area, and you will make mistakes. If you're too afraid to make those mistakes, that can be a negative against you because you're afraid and fearful men are generally unattractive.

The 'Bad Boy' has false-confidence, because he just doesn't care what someone thinks and he's a dink because of it. Place him in a situation where he wants approval and he folds. If you have genuine confidence, you can still care about others feelings. You just don't let their feelings about you dictate how you act. That guy who dances like nobody's watching? Confident, even when the two 'Bad boys' in the corner snidely talk about how he looks. But he's having fun, and those two guys are just jealous. That's confidence and it's attractive.